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Feeling unwanted and unloved today

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IwishIwasmoreorganised · 21/09/2009 10:24

So we were on holiday last week and had a lovely time - as relaxing as it can be with 2 small dc's.

Very early this mornng, DH had to fly away to work abroad for a few days. It's our wedding anniversary today.

I got a lovely card sorted before we went away and hid it inside his bag last night so that he'd find it this morning once he got to his hotel.

He's just called to say Happy Anniversary and admitted that he had completely forgotten that it was today. He shouldn't have needed reminding - we've only been married for 6 years and we've been on for ages about how we really needed 21st to come round as that was pay day for me.

He's also jetted off without leaving me any details of his flights or hotel despite me asking him to.

We're generally a happy couple, but I am severely lacking in sex drive. We only have sex once a month or so.

Today I just feel very unwanted and unloved and needed to get it out.

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purpleduck · 21/09/2009 10:37

awwww
Happy anniversay
Get yourself a takeaway later, and tell him he can make it up with a nice present.

Had he mentioned it earlier? Sometimes I lose dates if there are lots of activities going on around it.
Does he normally forget things?

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IwishIwasmoreorganised · 21/09/2009 10:49

Thank you!

We mentioned it before we went away but not for the last couple of weeks. He's not the best at remembering dates, but I deal with all the rest. This is the only one I expect him to remember without prompting. Is that too much do you think?

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LadyGlencoraPalliser · 21/09/2009 11:39

DH once went on a business trip, returning on the morning of our second wedding anniversary. He went straight from airport to office, so, as we worked for the same company, I phoned and suggested meeting for lunch. He said no, I promised Sally (colleague who fancied him) I'd have lunch with her.
I was very upset. I gave him a very hard time later on. I may even have cried. He's never forgotten our anniversary again.
I suggest you do the same.

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aurynne · 21/09/2009 11:55

Oh dear, I can sympathize with your DH, as I have an absolutely terrible memory for any sort of dates... I wouldn't remember my own birthday if it wasn't because my family reminds me of it a week before!

As a forgetful person I can guarantee you two things:

A) He does not do it on purpose

B) He will be gutted when reminded of it, but will be unable to remember next time, unless he sets an alarm in his PDA

You are not unwanted or unloved. Your DH is a scatterbrain that loves you!

Hugs,

Aurynne

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groundhogs · 21/09/2009 17:24

Here here what Aurynne said.

I've been with DH almost 10 years and he can't remember my birthday.

If a date is important to you, you have to - with tongue in cheek - remind the arse out of him... make a joke of it!

LOL, if you lay on the guilt thick this time, perhaps he'll get you something while he's away...

Tell him that you'll arrange a date for when he gets back, get yourself all dolled up and he can spoil you when he's back...

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mathanxiety · 21/09/2009 17:27

I would be puzzled and mad about not leaving you flight details or hotel info.

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IwishIwasmoreorganised · 21/09/2009 21:27

Well he just called again and was much more sorry.

I'm hoping to get something nice when he gets home on Wednesday!

He's just got a Blackberry and though he's not that good at using it, I think I might read the instructions and see how I can set up a reminder for the years to come!

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aurynne · 22/09/2009 07:15

IwishIwasmoreorganised that is a GREAT idea! You can do that together, and not only will he remember your birthday, he will also remember his mum's, his sister's and all the people he always forgot to call. You'll be your family's hero!

Take things with a sense of humour and that will also give you extra points with him, believe me!

A.

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