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Its been awful today

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slimbo Sat 19-Sep-09 20:53:34

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inveteratenamechanger Sat 19-Sep-09 20:57:57

Poor you. Sorry you had to listen to that cow going on about single mothers. angry It is tough being on your own.

slimbo Sat 19-Sep-09 21:02:57

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MaggieBeauLeo Sat 19-Sep-09 21:05:31

Jeeeezus.. I would have LAUGHED. The real reason it wasn't enjoyable wsn't because you are single, but because you didn't know many people and you weren't feeling confident.

If I'd been there, I would have politely reminded that woman that 1) not all single mothers are on benefits, 2) and some married women's husband's are on benefits!!

and 3) she could end up single and on benefits WHO knows what's round the corner. [evil grin]

Being single, you never have to worry that somebody will start spouting shite that'll embarrass you!! I bet that woman's husband wasn't too proud of her at that moment!
There is something so embarrassingly predictable and conformist about being married. I sometimes feel quite proud of myself that I'm the one who is different. Although I do know hwat you mean, as that confidence can waiver.

Sugarkane Sat 19-Sep-09 21:06:21

Im not a single parent and still find it so hard being a mum even with help so I take my hat off to you as I can only imagine how hard it must be on your own. Im so sorry the BBQ has been awful, ignore what this woman was saying, so should she really as we never know what is round the corner. Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

MaggieBeauLeo Sat 19-Sep-09 21:07:06

Slimbo that's rough.. he's rationalising everything in his head to make it all your fault. Classic guilty as sin behaviour.

mathanxiety Sat 19-Sep-09 22:08:03

Slimbo, I would really not be getting in touch with that ex of yours at all. You're keeping the game going every time you toss the ball back with the texting, and this is all he wants. He is not going to be convinced by any rational or reasonable argument that he is a twat, and he's having a lovely time getting your goat every time. So sorry you ran into such a silly woman at the BBQ, but glad you're getting out and being sociable, which is very brave. It's hard to face the world on your own and you have nothing to be ashamed of for 'hiding behind your DD'. Babies are the best calling cards ever smile

MollieO Sat 19-Sep-09 22:26:51

I'm a single mum not on benefits. I encountered the worst reverse snobbery on our skiing holiday this year. Shared chalet booked through a company specialising in family skiing holiday. It appealed to me because of the good childcare avaiable but I didn't think about whom I would be sharing the chalet with. Everyone else was part of a married couple.

I only found out at the end of the week that I was the source of endless speculating by one couple in particular. They made a comment on the last day which basically asked how could I afford 'such an expensive holiday'. No doubt because I was a single parent. I reckon what really pissed them off was that we had the only ensuite bedroom in the chalet!

Ds's father left when he was still in the hospital so he has been raised by me alone. It does mean that everything he is is completely down to me. That (current start of term excepting) makes me very proud. It is hard being on your own as it can seem relentless but the good times do make up for that.

echt Sat 19-Sep-09 23:39:09

Slimbo - sorry that woman was so vile, but mathanxiety is right to say you shouldn't text him.

Also, imagining what he's thinking is pointless, not least because it gets you a response (maggielebeau's) which confirms the imaginary.

It sounds like you are having difficulty letting him go, shite though he obviously is, and it's understandable. But do resist. Your position is tough, but you've made so many valuable first steps.

anothermum92 Sun 20-Sep-09 21:54:59

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baskingseals Mon 21-Sep-09 22:21:35

Please don't let some bag ruin your evening.

It is so so so much better to be on your own, rather than in a relationship that isn't working.

Just remember that people who make nasty comments aren't that happy themselves.

Enjoy your dd, do things your way, look forward, things will only get better.

Have fun. x

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