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how does one find the male g spot?

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sexmad Thu 17-Sep-09 21:09:04

basically as says how does one find it?

was having a bit of a 'play' in the area, felt a bit odd to do it but also nice as well watching him enjoy it so much.

was first time I did it & didn't really know what to do - HELP! what do you do & how do you find it?

anything else I should be doing at the same time as well?

(am a reg name changer btw please don't out me, SIL & friend also use the board)

PortBlacksandResident Thu 17-Sep-09 21:15:05

Footie on telly and a full English breakfast.

expatinscotland Thu 17-Sep-09 21:15:19

What do you mean, anally? Or that bit .5-1in. below the glans on his penis?

sexmad Thu 17-Sep-09 21:16:41

anally expat. what bit is the glands on the penis?

(when it comes to this part of sex i'm such a novice - the rest is fine)

AnyFucker Thu 17-Sep-09 21:17:21

stick your finger up his bum and press the front wall of his rectum

if you can stomach it shock

expatinscotland Thu 17-Sep-09 21:17:58

it's the head of his penis, once the foreskin's retracted with erection.

you can feel a bit of a soft spot on the underside of his penis pretty easily with your tongue.

StayFrostyMT Thu 17-Sep-09 21:18:53

lol Port.

The glans is also politely known as the bell end, Sexmad!

expatinscotland Thu 17-Sep-09 21:19:24

do what AF says whilst giving him a blow/hand job

he will be in your pocket.

StayFrostyMT Thu 17-Sep-09 21:19:27


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sexmad Thu 17-Sep-09 21:23:48

erm does that mean I need to point the finger to the back or to the front (as in trying to poke the tummy from the inside?)

ah ok bellend got that bit.

BJ while fingering the bum ok. got that bit - is it ahem, suppose to be quite hard as in tight the bum blush blush when having a finger in it?

Malificence Thu 17-Sep-09 21:25:24

Are we talking prostate gland massage?
Apparently, it feels like a walnut or a polo mint and is a couple of inches or so into the rectum. Gentle massage is required.
If he is lying on his back then put a finger in his bum and curl it towards his navel.
I sound like I know what I'm talking about but my hubby won't let me go near him.
There are special toys and everything.
There is a video on "sex-how to do everything" on fiver, you can watch it or download it.

I've tried perineal massage on hubby but he said he wasn't impressed, like women, men vary in the intensity of feeling. I can have g-spot orgasms but they are nothing very special.

sexmad Thu 17-Sep-09 21:26:50

so what is the bit that feels a bit like a sponge inside the bum then? do you poke it, prod it, massage it?

sexmad Thu 17-Sep-09 21:27:06

sorry yes we are.

Malificence Thu 17-Sep-09 21:30:21

If he is tense then he will feel tight and won't get the most out of the experience, he needs to be well lubed and relaxed.
The video on fiver is very informative btw.
There is also information on the lovehoney website about prostate massage.

I can't concentrate on anything else when giving oral, I can't even co-ordinate hand movements!

Malificence Thu 17-Sep-09 21:33:09

His prostate will get fuller and firmer with arousal, the fuller his prostate, the more intense his orgasm and the more he will ejaculate.
I wish my hubby was up for it, he'll happily play with my bum.

Anal beads are meant to feel very nice.

sexmad Thu 17-Sep-09 21:35:51

ok, he seems to really like it - even to the point of suggesting using toys. I am open to the idea of strap ons but not sure on doing that to him.

think we need to work on the relaxing part of it.

on the plus side my forearms had a good work out!

expatinscotland Thu 17-Sep-09 21:36:42

LOTS of lube. Get him to lay on his back. Put a pillow up under his hips. You climb up between his legs to perform oral sex and have fun!

I'm coordinated.

sexmad Thu 17-Sep-09 21:39:09

ok that must be were we/I went wrong - initially used no lube then used 'natural' lube plus was half asleep as had just woken up.

PussinJimmyChoos Thu 17-Sep-09 21:39:31

Expat - going off topic slightly, what about BJs for circumcised men?? Do you find it harder to do <no pun intended> grin

expatinscotland Thu 17-Sep-09 21:42:44

Well, being American by birth, I've given BJs to plenty of circumcised men. It's more common to circumcise there and there are also large populations of people who circumcise for reasons of faith/religion.

Nope, I don't find it any more difficult at all.

It sort of looks the same once it's erect, but of course, there's no foreskin there moving back and forth.

Still, doesn't make much difference.

There's still that soft spot.

Malificence Thu 17-Sep-09 21:46:38

I'm fine with the finger play, or even an anal toy, but no way in hell could I use a strap on, but that's possibly 'cos I know my hubby would never want it either, I would find it emasculating.

There is an episode of sex-how to do everything which shows a girl using a feeldoe ( basically a double dildo) on her bloke, it may be episode 7, the one on all things anal.

The thing that would worry me about it all is whether they would always want something up their bum for sex, as the orgasm is meant to be SO much better.

Malificence Thu 17-Sep-09 21:50:35

The best tips on giving a man oral are on a website by a gay guy, well, he should know.

The correct term for the bit just below the glans is the frenulum and it's as sensitive as our clitoris, gentle flicks of the tongue are very well received.

Lovehoney has some very erm, interesting, anal toys. The size of some of them are mind boggling!shock

The Aneros range of massagers look quite good though.

sexmad Thu 17-Sep-09 21:51:41

mali - I don't think he is suggesting every time. and while i'm open to the strap on & it's something i'd love to try, I also worry about the same thing you do - possibly that's best left as a fantasy.

must look out more for the soft spot. wink

aside from licking/stroking while BJ's any other tips?

FuzzyTum Thu 17-Sep-09 21:52:40

Ladies, ladies, aren't we a day early, or is Thursday night "prostate stimulation night" grin

I believe you make a "come hither" motion once digit is inserted, as per ladies.

There is a school of thought that the female G-spot is a kind of useless prostate, as female ejaculate has a similar chemical composition to urine.

Or summin'.

LadyVolupta Thu 17-Sep-09 21:54:46

finger up the bum and wiggle!!...gross...but its

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