Dh comes from a big family, they are very close and still all literally live with in arms reach. Dh never makes decisions by himself, it?s a thing he struggles with. That in itself is okay, but what getting to me, is his reliance on his father/mother for the answers. I prob didn?t explain that very well.
take eating out for example?????
We hardly every get to try new places to eat, he likes to eat in the same five places his parents like to eat, and quite usually have the same bloody dish in each one. I?d love to go out exploring and find a new place each time. We never seem to strike out on our own, we never get to find ?our? favourite place, somewhere they(his family) maybe haven?t even been. If he cant think of where to go he will listen to my suggestion but then ring his parents????..
I sometimes feel like I am not married/his wife but merely tagging along behind his family who are doing what they have done for years together.
His dad is lovely but quite controlling, very opinionated and used to everyone doing as he says. He has a fierce opinion on everything from what we should do with our lives to which mop we should buy. And I know he?s older and is indeed wise, but sometimes I want us to be independent. I like his family but I want US (me, dh and our children) to be the ones doing things 90% of the time, not feel like I am going along with the entire in-law family
I think living next door but one to two members of his family, and ten minutes from the others isn?t helping. My family is 40 mins drive away.
Am I being totally unreasonable not liking this? Dh says I am, he says what?s wrong with asking for advice or opinions.
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Is he boring? or safe? And am I being totally unreasonable???
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dramaqueen72 · 05/06/2005 13:10
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