Another MIL thread, I know. I just need help putting a very nasty ihcident into perspective and moving on.
DD was born 3 mths ago, and we had to stay in hospital for 3 days. We are discharged on monday night. This is the longest ds and I have been separated, so I'm really looking forward to some quiet quality time with dh, ds and new dd. Tues am pil turn up (they have been invited to meet new gd). They announce they've decided to 'make a holiday of it' and are staying until thursday night.
I explain, as politely and calmly as I can, that this is not what we had planned and we really need some quiet time. MIL's reaction is to get really angry/upset. Apparently I am selfish, inconsiderate, ungrateful and rude. They leave. Anyway, at this point I burst into tears, and can't stop crying for about a week.
I really feel like this ruined what should have been a beautiful first week with a new member of the family, and delayed my bonding with dd. No doubt, baby blues were partly to blame for my reaction, but I'm in tears now just typing this.
I've got to see PIL at the w.end, and the prospect of it has got me all negative and weepy again.
Any thoughts on how I can put this behind me? Not just for my sanity but for the sake of dh and dc's relationship with PIL.
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Feelings about MIL hanging over me like a black cloud. How do I snap out of it?
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LovelyBertha · 16/09/2009 16:01
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