has she spoken to him about it? if she doesn't like it then she doesn't need to stay with him. does she like his dominating personality generally? if not, then it doesn't sound like a good relationship. how long have they been together.
I love rough sex, being spanked, bitten, hair pulled etc. but that sounds nasty to me and if my husband had a look of anything other than lust and enjoyment in his eyes it would kill the mood immediately.
Fantasising about killing someone during sex can't be healthy?
I couldn't deal with hands or anything else around my throat, totally freaks me out.
When you see some of the truly scary stuff some people are into like mutilation then I do wonder if they are psychologically damaged in some way?
RIND - I agree totally with your comments on the thread.
the fact it carries on outside the bedroom, and the death threat worry me.
i've heard a lot about dominant / submissive relationships and in my experience, it's the dominant ones that seem to be happier. in my experience. because the dominant ones have a duty to look after the submissive that is very easily forgotten.
i would get the fuck out of that relationship and change the locks just in case.
I'm with you RIND. Me and DP do enjoy the rougher side of things but we would never dream of saying something like that. I am one that DOES like a little mock strangulation. Maybe it isn't that as it's more DP holding me down rather than actual strangling. Hmmm...
But we have strict rules on it's only to be done when both are in the mood for it and when asked to stop, it happens IMMEDIATELY.
And DP is one of the most loving, respectful men I have ever have known in my life.