Cutting a long story short, dh has said he doesn't fancy me anymore. It's mainly about the fact that in his opinion in every relationship the attraction wanes but our lustiness allegedly started from a low base and so he, it seems is left with not enough to want to have sex with me .
He also did mention that my body wasn't quite in as good a shape as it could be - we had a debate about this as I said he isn't perfect either in response to this but he says he's lost weight and other things aren't things he can change. He seems to have an issue with me "not making the most of myself".
Which is ridiculous to me as I'm no slummy mummy - I get my hair done regularly, I am slim ish (Ok so I have wobbly thighs but I'm a size 10 fgs), wear decentish clothes (ok jeans a lot but I'm a mum, I'm not going to wear floaty frigging dresses all day)
I'm obviously not up to his standards .
It shrieks of midlife crisis.
Help. What can I do??
He does seem to care in that he wishes it wasn't like this and is willing to go to counselling. He talked about some treatment like hypnotherapy but heck I don't want to have my husband only sleep with me because he's been hypnotised to fancy me again!!
so beyond counselling, what can we do? And how would others feel about this? I feel humiliated and angry sometimes, other times sad.
Has anyone had similar and sorted it out?
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DH doesn't fancy me anymore
thisisnotmyrealnamehonest · 15/09/2009 17:42
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