I am in a real dliemma. I always knew when I got married that my H was not the "perfect man", not that such a person exists- know that!
However, I chose to go ahead mainly out of fear of being alone, after being hurt a lot in my 20s, endlessly it seemed, and because he gave me some of what I wanted/needed. I did like him, but wasn't sure if it was love. It was a safe option, tbh.
Now, many years on and 2 grown up DCs later, I realise it was a mistake, and I should not have married for those reasons.
Mentally, he doesn't turn me on and I only feel half-alive, if that makes sense- we have a few things in common but not alot and he is a very quiet, solitary person, who doesn't need friends ( has none) or much communication _ I am the opposite- I write and communication is what makes me tick.
He is a good man and I feel very secure, but I can really take him orleave him. My conscience says I should go, but I know heloves me a lot and doesn't want this- if he felt the same, it would be over quickly.
I am weighing up the odds- I'd be a lot poorer, I wouldn't have a "friend" which is really how I see him, my DCs would have divorced parents, and I may never meet anyone else.
I know that no-one can tell me what to do, but so many of my friends say that a lot of marriages are like this and it's "normal". Is it?
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How many women are just making do with their partner- is it common?
strawpoll · 14/09/2009 08:15
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