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Im upset.....again!

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jampots · 03/06/2005 15:11

Dh was taking children to see Star Wars this afternoon - I popped out earlier to go to the bank and a few other little errands. While I was out I saw my sister for 20 mins and got back in time to drop them all at the cinema. When dh found out he went mad and said he wasnt taking hte children, i flipped and screwed up his mum's banking receipt (childish I know) and he's now stormed out in his mums car and has said "thats it". I now have 2 very disappointed children on my hands who we have done NOTHING with this bank holiday!

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anorak · 03/06/2005 15:12

Oh jampots, your dh really needs to grow up, doesn't he?

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LGJ · 03/06/2005 15:13

What an arse, sorry but he is, he actually needs help by the sound of it.

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Iklboo · 03/06/2005 15:15

Jam - how many children have you got? Sounds like 2 disappointed ones and one throwing a tantrum!

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suzywong · 03/06/2005 15:18

sod him, order-in all the entertainment you can and pay on credit card and put defrosted prawns in his pockets an wee on his toothbrush

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expatinscotland · 03/06/2005 15:20

What's the deal with people who make their children pay for their anger w/their spouse? It's not THEIR fault there was a row between you two. Sorry, but that's so disappointing for hte kids. How about being the adult and saying, 'K, my feelings aside, I promised to take the kids out for a treat'?

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noddyholder · 03/06/2005 15:21

take them yourself and then go out for a pizza aswell

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LGJ · 03/06/2005 15:22

Special daddy only chocolate rice crispie cakes made with this

If his moods aren't to regular his bowels sure will be

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Jimjams · 03/06/2005 15:23

yep order a taxi, go yourself and have a pizza. He's playing power games. He's also an arse.

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beansontoast · 03/06/2005 15:23
Grin
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beansontoast · 03/06/2005 15:25

that grin is at lgj obviously

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ScrewballMuppet · 03/06/2005 15:26

Remind me not to get on the wrong side of you suzywong.
Yeh order in as much entertainment as you can or go out for a walk or to kick a ball with them or throw frisbees.
Even better you take them to the next showing get a taxi if you have to but take them anyway. As you said its not their fault or yours. If your dh has another go about you taking them just let him know that your not gonna dissapoint them for an argument that you've both had.
You must be livid with him!!!
Why was it so bad that you saw your sister?

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suzywong · 03/06/2005 15:28

Damn straight Screwbalmuppet

remind me to tell you sometime what I did in my DH's office with a bottle of fish sauce

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stressedmummy · 03/06/2005 15:29

I feel for you & your poor children jampots.
I have been having similar problems with my H recently & have had a very serious talk with him, saying that I am not prepared to put up with much more.
He seems to almost be going out of his way to prove he is the perfect father & husband ATM, but I know it won't last.
You have my sympathies.

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jampots · 03/06/2005 15:30

thanks girls ! i just needed to rant. Its also my dad's anniversary so I wanted to go to the cemetary whilst they were all at the cinema!

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suzywong · 03/06/2005 15:31

oh no, do you think dh knows that? Surely he wouldn't be that mean.

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ScrewballMuppet · 03/06/2005 15:32

OMW @ suzywong and lgj. Thats gonna have me chuckling to self all day.
Dare I ask about the fish sauce, go on tell me?

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jampots · 03/06/2005 15:32

yes suzy he does know but only because I told him.

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ScrewballMuppet · 03/06/2005 15:34

Thats terrible jampots. All the more reason your dh had no right to have a go at you regarding you speaking to your sister.

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suzywong · 03/06/2005 15:35

Jampots, that is very arsey of him, do you think he is regretting his actions but doesn't know how to be remorseful after being such an arse?


Well I can't remember what dh had done, nothing probably, just looked at me in a funny way, and I went in to his office in one of the rooms in our flat and flicked an open bottle of Thai fish sauce around, including in the pockets of his jacket and poured milk on his chair. To this day he believes it was a rogue squirrel that got in throught the window and sprayed everywhere.

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ScrewballMuppet · 03/06/2005 15:47

Has he come home yet jampots?

Was it this
Roguesquirrel

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suzywong · 03/06/2005 15:48

SNORT!
yes that was the very squirrel, hilarious!

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anorak · 03/06/2005 15:54

jampots, it sounds to me like your dh couldn't be arsed to take the kids out and picked an argument to get out of it.

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jampots · 03/06/2005 15:59

yes he's home now although going out again - indications are that he is going to look at alternative accomodation - not sure how he thinks he's going to afford that! He said he'd take hte children but in the time that he'd gone I spoke to my friend who suggested the children would like to watch it in their own lounge so I told him to f* himself and Ive arranged for the kids to watch it already!

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ScrewballMuppet · 03/06/2005 16:02

Brilliant about the Star Wars alternative arrangements!!

Are you guys splitting up (alternative accommodation)?

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jampots · 03/06/2005 16:06

well he threatens it every time we row - he hasnt left yet though - so who knows. Another controlling tactic.

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