I just want to vent and I hope no one minds if I do, thank you.
Just before we went on a family holiday 5 weeks ago my husband and I had a huge row and right up unitl the 2nd day of the holiday he was really off with me. I made him come out for a walk and tell me what was up and he said he hasn't been happy in a long time and had been thinking of leaving me but didn't know what to do. SO 2 days of me shut in my room crying and he doesn't come to comfort me so I figure he wants to leave but doesn't know how to say. So i told him that morning that if that was the way he felt then perhaps we should just call it a day, he cried but agreed. Horrible holiday. 1 week later I am on a camp with a youth club I run and he brings the kids up to see me for the day and he just sits there and doesn't say a word after a while I get mad and have a go at him ask him if he has sorted somewhere to go and tell him I want him gone by the time I get back from camp. I honestly dont know why I said this because I love him so much but I could't take him sat there with a face on.
On the saturday night he drops our kids off at camp and packs his stuff to move into a flat share he has found and apparently signed contracts with in 2 days? He is living with a girl from his work who we had a row about on one occasion because he spent the night flirting with her and ignoring me. He says its purely plutonic.
I come home and tell our 2 boys what has happened (they are 4 and 9) and they are understandably gutted and we all cry together. 4 days later I agree they can go to their dads new house for the evening but when I get there to pick them up this woman is sat laughing and joking with my kids.
I have asked that she does not see them because they are confused enough as it is.
My eldest son doesn't sleep and is getting into trouble at school while the yougest is wetting the bed and crying he misses his daddy. I let them see him as often as possible and have even bought the oldest a mobile phone so he can ring his dad.
but i am a mess I cannot understand why he has left and whenever I ask him he just says he hasn't been happy for a while and he doesn't know how he feels and he needs time.
I am so sorry to rant I feel so alone and with no answers I cant begin to get over him. I just wish he would come home.
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He left me 3 weeks ago with 2 ds and moved in with someone else! (v. long sorry)
lucie19 · 10/09/2009 23:34
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