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Not in the mood

(8 Posts)
Roopoo Mon 07-Sep-09 23:29:46

I love my DH with all my heart. He is my best friend and my soul mate and an amazing husband and father.

Im the problem.. I had our DD 5 months ago and struggled until recently with PND. I didn't really know that I had it.. But DH talked me into going to the Doctors and after being put on AD's I finally have started to like and love my DD which is fantastic..

From her birth DH has been amazing as I have found it hard to form a bond with her.

I still fancy him but I just never seem to be in the mood or to want sex... Im just worried that Im going to drive him away and loose him. He's so great and I have been such a crazy woman for the last 5 months and Im still carrying loads of baby weight and Im never in the mood Im so scared Im going to loose him..

How do you get the old feelings back... is this normal after having a baby..I just feel sick at the thought of him seeing me naked and don't want him touching me... I don't see how he could want it when I wouldn't want me..
Is there anything I can do because we used to have a fantastic sex life...

lilacclaire Mon 07-Sep-09 23:32:15

Very normal.
Lights out, couple of drinks to relax you?
AD's can affect your sex drive as well.

LyraSilvertongue Mon 07-Sep-09 23:32:22

Give yourself a break. You have PND. Wait till that's under control, then do something about your weight/making yourself look how you want to look.
Your DH sounds like a very understanding and patient man. smile

LyraSilvertongue Mon 07-Sep-09 23:33:27

The year after having a baby will be pure upheaval. Give yourself time to let things settle down. And tell him how you feel.

Roopoo Mon 07-Sep-09 23:33:49

Thanks x
He's amazing bless him xx

LyraSilvertongue Mon 07-Sep-09 23:34:41

He sounds it. Be honest with him and he'll understand.

lilacclaire Mon 07-Sep-09 23:36:20

You should look as your body as a map of your life, right now you've just had a baby and your body reflects that, be proud not ashamed.

Roopoo Tue 08-Sep-09 14:50:35

Thanks againx
Think my hormones are still a bit all over the show x

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