DH is unable to listen to anything I have to say. He will literally walk off whilst I am mid-sentence, cut me off whilst I am talking to say something himself, look around and get distracted by the tiniest little everyday sounds, carry on watching tv as if I haven't said anything. Every time he does this, I feel belittled, unimportant, and hurt. I feel he does not respect me enough to pay attention when I am saying something.
I never feel like having sex with him and I have worked out that his inability to listen to me is why. It causes resentment in me towards him and I feel very disconnected from him if we cannot even have a normal everyday conversation.
I have told him how he makes me feel but he just says he doesn't mean to do it, he doesn't do it intentionally, it's all in my head if i feel belittled and hurt and he basically says he can't change and i have to put up with it.
I have tried but I can't put up with it and I don't really know what to do. Has anybody got any ideas?
He gets moody if I say i don't want sex and goes on about all the things he does for me. And to be fair he does do a lot around the house and helps out with the DC's as much as he can, considering he also works long hours in a sressful job. But I would be much happier if he helped out less and listened more. I never ask him to help, he just does it, but I have asked him to listen as that is what i want from him, but he says he can't. It seems like an impossible problem, please tell me there is a way forward!
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DH cannot 'listen' and it's putting me off sex. Please help!
oneplusone · 07/09/2009 20:15
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