firstly excuse typing as am bf (as usual!)
there is a lot of history to this and ive posted and recapped several times over the last couple of years as things have evolved. advice i have been given was not wasted and i see that i was being used for much of our relationship and treated dreadfully. i am certainly no longer blind to that.
i posted most recently about how well dp and i have been getting along since he finally completed his divorce and that has continued and we've had our dd and he is a doting father and supportive partner. blah blah. i said i felt that we were in a weird friendship orientated relationship and that along with the turbulence gone was the spark. the advice was to relax. i have. however, last night dp announced that he sees no future as he does not love me.
can't really argue with that but he said he felt it was the perfect relationship, that he wanted desperately for it to work but that his heart wasn't in it anymore and he felt he had to tell me.
we've since had a confused convo. about ending it, carrying on seeing each other, still going on holiday in a fortnight, staying friends. i don't know which way i am facing now.
i feel that this soarkless relationship is somewhat inevitable given what we've been through and that we need to try and rekindle that now that we have a more solid friendship as a basis. he says he has tried sooo hard and i think maybe he has tried too hard. we've had no downtime since the divorce, we have a 6 week old baby and 5 other children between us. i think he is expecting too much and is quitting too soon but maybe i am deluded. if he no longer loves me he no longer loves me and maybe that's that.
please help.
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dp doesn't love me
hobbgoblin · 06/09/2009 14:28
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