Ok so I have name changed but am a regular ish poster and I am desperate and feeling totally tortured about my situation.
My wife has announced she wants me to move out. Things have been wrong between us for many years and I accept totally that most of the blame for the issues lay at my door. I was prepared to move out when we separated for a short time at the start of the year. My wife agreed to make a go of things however and things improved for a while.
I know I could have tried harder with lots of things but I didn't, I cannot explain why not, I just didn't and I wish I had as now she wants me to move out stating that she has had enough of my promises of improvement which never materialise into anything. I wish I had more get up and go in me and I would give anything to feel more confident and assertive. I understand why she feels this way and I know there is no going back and the relationship is doomed as far as she can see.
She told me a couple of nights ago that she no longer loves me, fancies me and has lost all respect for me. I still think things can work out if only she will see that I will improve. I fear she will get a solicitor involved and want to know where I stand with the house, kids etc. House is rented through HA in her name only on the tenancy. We both work full time.
Do I have any claim on staying put in the house? She wants to end it so surely I could say SHE should move out? Can she make me move out legally? What can I do in terms of getting access to the kids? She said she wants joint access/custody. I cannot bear the thought of not living with my kids but know they could not live with me if I were living alone due to my job.
I just don't know what to do my head is spinning with it all and I have no family or friends who I can turn to.
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I am being thrown out of my own home
Tortured · 02/09/2009 18:10
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