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Inequality, ex treating ds and not dd

(8 Posts)
mamas12 Tue 01-Sep-09 23:53:48

I have posted a bit on this subject before but this time it's huge.
Ex took ds on a day trip to his first proper football match and it was fab, a big deal and he loved it. I don't begrudge him that at all, it was a perfect birthday present.
My point is, he has nothing equivalent planned for dd sad
I even had to suggest a present idea for him.
Which was difficult because we usually get them similar things as they both ask for them. e.g. ipods one year cameras next. But he says he's not getting anything for ds now but he will get the camera for dd.
I can't afford to 'match' his pressie so I've thought that I could take dd to see her favourite comedian fo the moment, (or I could suggest that as his equivalent) but if I do I'd probably have to take ds as he likes him too.
Am quite confused over what to do for the best
Any suggestions

mamas12 Wed 02-Sep-09 00:24:42

shameless bump

colditz Wed 02-Sep-09 00:36:33

have a word with the ex. Tell him bluntly that it's not fair and his daughter is upset. He needs to think of something just for her.

mamas12 Wed 02-Sep-09 00:56:44

colditz I haven't said anything to dd I think she is resigned to this sad and he would be passive aggressive and say 'I don't know what to do with her'
I would love to give them both what they want for their birthdays but can't I am currently looking sites to find tickets to take her to see comedian but they are £30 each plus the bloody extras so far £107+ !
Don't know what to do.

mamas12 Wed 02-Sep-09 01:06:13

Would suggest ex take her but why should he have all the fun when I can't afford it.

Off to bed now to sleep 9!0

diddl Wed 02-Sep-09 05:46:05

Sorry, I don´t understand.
So your son had a day out, and your daughter is geting a camera?
What´s wrong with that?
And why should you "match" his presents?

thesouthsbelle Wed 02-Sep-09 07:23:17

i don't understand either, it's a treat for your DS's birthday, I assume your ex would do something similar for DD's birthday, why not suggest he takes her to the comedian for her birthday?

mamas12 Wed 02-Sep-09 19:21:18

Well up till now we have gone halves on presents, so if he's given ds a day out and dd a camera I have to get something from me instead of going halves on one big pressie each
Do you see now.

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