A man I know has come back from his travels, as he does sporadically, and very upfront has said he'd love just to come round whenever he is here, and be close physically (not sure how close exactly but that kind of idea) but is worried it would not be fair on me as he is away so much.
I said it wasn't so much the unfairness thing but that I always invest ehavily in relationships, emotionally I mean - and with the children around all the time it isn't likely there would be any time for physical intimacy.
We left it at that but he'll be round tomorrow to help me with some garden stuff and I am very attracted to him...the kids'll be here anyway but I'd like to figure out what I want from him and whether I could actually live happily with someone coming round every few months, uncommitted, etc etc.
I'll always be fond of him and fancy him. It's about whether anything happens I suppose, and I'm adamant it won't when the children are here because it's not fair for them to get attached to him as mum's boyfriend and then he buggers off. Ds1 was already upset that he didn't come here for months.
If anyone has a perspective and can talk me through it I'd be grateful. My usual criteria are all or nothing iyswim.
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