Over the past 18 months I have become (too) close to a man at work. It happened gradually and I managed to kid myself that we were just friends as nothing physical happened between us, but we weren't. I realised belatedly and backed right off.
Since then I have been working hard at arranging fun things to do with DH and the family and enjoying spending time with DH both on our own and as a family, which is great while my mind is occupied.
But, as soon as it's not I can't get this man out of my head, which is particularly distressing during sex. What can I do - will he ever go?
Keep up with what you're doing and stop fretting about thinking about him too much - it's just giving him space in your head which he doesn't need, but your family do. You'll get over it, a lot faster than your family will if you continue to let this effect you which will in turn, eventually effect them.