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Living different lives in pregnancy?

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Shiregirl Sun 30-Aug-09 11:16:37

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rubyslippers Sun 30-Aug-09 11:21:00

What was he like before the PG?

TBH, i don't think it is reasonable to expect him to curtail all his socialising but it sounds like he is taking the pee, especially as you are then to broke to do stuff together ...

you need to talk to him

twoclimbingboys Sun 30-Aug-09 11:35:50

He is being selfish imo. One night out over the bank holiday weekend would have been ok, but most of it away really isn't very nice for you.

Have you pointed out to him that he won't spend money on a day out with you but is spending huge amounts on himslf? What is his response?

Shiregirl Sun 30-Aug-09 11:42:18

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tethersend Sun 30-Aug-09 12:30:10

I found this when I was pg...

The thing is, when we discover we are pregnant, that's it, party's over, literally overnight. They get about 8 months' notice that party's over- it's like when they call last orders in the pub and everyone rushes to the bar to get the shots in.

I really think your dp is just acutely aware that his lifestyle is going to come to an end, and is doing everything while he can- I think if someone had told me that I would have to get it together in eight months' time, I would be doing the same. I think it is probably a good sign that he knows he will be facing responsibilities soon...

Having said that, I never liked to suffer alone... wink

Don't worry too much- I don't think a baby is 'real' for fathers until it is tangible and they can see it. My dp really calmed down as my bump grew, and when our dd arrived, the party was over for both of us and he became an amazing father literally overnight. What we didn't realise was that being parents was so much more fun than our old lifestyle, and to be honest, no-one can tell you that. Especially when you are up at 4am for all the wrong reasons (at least he will have practiced the sleepless nights!).

mathanxiety Mon 31-Aug-09 01:33:56

He's partying like it's 1999 months, maybe, but he could still show some consideration for you. It's not just all about the baby, or him becoming a father, it's about the relationship. Ask him how he thinks he is showing you that you are a priority in his life these days.

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