namechanger as DH knows my MN name.
DH and I had a massive argument about something trivial. Escalated massively.
But he said that he would 'fight me for the kids' and that he 'wanted custody.' I said that this is unrealistic as I'm their primary carer, am at the moment a SAHM, and he works. He said that he would cut down his hours and put them in day care.
I said that my concern would be the best interests of the children; that he was trying to hurt me by threatening to take the children away.
We've managed to try and work out why our arguments spiral so quickly, although I've never been nasty to him nor ever threatened that he shouldn't see the kids.
He's an OK dad. Not great, but tries very hard.
We did agree that if we ever did split up, that we wouldn't go to court as ideally I would like to work things out amicably.
I'm not sure that I could trust him again after he said that he could fight me for the kids and that I would stay with him as I don't want to end up with a bitter battle. (am experienced in family law and know how horrible it can get)
Is it possible to forget nasty things?
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DH wanting custody of DCs
runningforthehills · 29/08/2009 20:40
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