I have been with my partner for around a year now. He is normally quiet, shy, nervous type but sometimes he just explodes in fits of rage, usually whilst driving, other times just in the house when he drops something for instance.
He's never been aggressive with me though.
What is worrying me is that he seems obsessed with being with me 24/7. If I arrange to go into town with my mum for the day he goes in a sulk saying its "wierd" and that he should be invited too.
He's started slagging off my family, very subtle comments but its becomming more and more frequent.
Everything of mine he says is crap. My phone is crap, my PC is crap, my car was crap etc etc.
I told him the other day that I had been asked on a works night out for the saturday night. Its the first time I've been out since we got together. He went in a major strop saying that weekends should be "our time" and that I wasn't leaving him at home with the kids (not his kids but still, they were at their dads that night anyway so it wasn't an issue) and I was being selfish spending the money on myself (even though its MY money) etc etc, basically he just did not want me going out.
He moans every time I have to go to training courses with my martial arts club because he insists the instructor has "ulterior motives" and in december, the martial arts club are going out for christmas dinner together. No partners, just us. DP went in a right mood and said it was selfish, me going out and leaving him and that he should go too. Now he's insisting that we get the kids looked after so he can come too.
I am due to go on holiday in six weeks time (it was booked before I moved in with him) and he says he's fine with it, yet at the same time he's going on and on about plane crashes, says stuff like "i'll be watching the news all night" and putting on movies with air crashes in when he KNOWS i'm terrified of flying as it is.
He has no friends and doesn't go out anywhere. Is he just lonely/cares about me or is it signs of more to come?
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I can see signs of controlling/abusive behaviour. Am I being paranoid?
TheGoldenCat · 26/08/2009 11:12
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