Hi I need some help please. I have been taken to court by my ex wanting access to our son. He's never had contact as I found out early in the pregnancy he already had a partner and 2 kids and then wanted nothing to do with me or the baby resorting to threats, abuse and intimidation towards me in order to keep his partner finding out about the baby. This was 4 years ago, my son is now 3.5. He's claimed he didn't know I was pregnant and then when he did find out I said it wasn't his and stated these lies in his application for contact. This is all untrue and he attended hospital and a scan and it suited him to threaten me and have nothing to do with our child. Then I got a court summons for DNA tests to be done and now he wants contact! We met CAFCASS yesterday before the hearing as I wanted reports done due to the lies and abuse before contact was discussed as to me and my son this guy is a stranger. CAFCASS took one look at me....single mom and one at him who brought his wife and 3 kids, believed him and recommended immediate access and no reports! I'm totally distraught; I was treated so badly as a mother and made to be a liar. CAFCASS even said there was no allegation of domestic abuse which there was and even to the extent I reported him to the police on one occasion! The magistrates went along with the CAFCASS officer and I still refused contact at this point in my son's life as I wanted reassurance to this man's background and commitment etc. It has now got to go to a hearing and I have to give evidence and I?m scared. I don't know what to do, I'm scared of this man and I?ve seen his manipulation first hand with his other children and I?m concerned about him having contact with my son. I've been badly let down by CAFCASS and they didn't even listen to my solicitor. I don't believe direct contact will be good for my son at this age and until this man has been checked and shown his commitment to my son but I?m stuck and so upset! As a mother who loves her son I want the best for him but I have been dismissed and my concerns have been ignored and I just don't know what to do. I can't eat or sleep and I?m in total shock that CAFCASS has let me and my son down so very badly! Please, please help, I have nowhere to turn now, I have tried looking on the internet but there are so many websites for fathers but nothing to help mothers in my situation! I can make a complaint to CAFCASS but ultimately that?s not going to change the court?s mind now, it?s too late! I just don't know what to do next!
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