my life/family is fairly cosy at the moment and i know this would disrupt it, but.....
my dp and i have been in a relationship for almost two years(but we dont live together). he asks me fairly regularly to marry him and i always say we cant afford to.
he has two teenagers who live with him - i have two teenagers that live with me. we would need a five bedroomed house, which neither of us could afford a mortgage for - and u dont see them come up for rent very often. But to be honest i use this as an excuse.
i dont think i could live with his children, they are messy, selfish, rude, always stinging him for cash, despite the fact they have pocket money, and work part time in a shop. they have friends in the house when he's not there despite being told not too, they drink their dads wine etc. (they are 16 and 18 mine 18 and 19)
my children are no angels but they are nothing like his.
my kids think it would be ok, his dd does too, his ds never expresses an opinion.(so i dont think he would be over keen)
i do love him tho- but i'm not sure i love him enough to live with his children IYSWIM.
am i being selfish? should i bite the bullet?
anyone got any experience of this?
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Should i ? shouldn't i?..... creating a dsyfunctional family!
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strugstu · 29/05/2005 22:21
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