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addicted to orgasms...

(43 Posts)
orgjunkie Sat 22-Aug-09 17:26:56

i don't even know if this is a problem or not but my sex drive has gone out of control. I feel like i'm addicted to's all I can think about all the time.

I have 2 small kids, very very skint, stressed upto eyeballs but I just can't stop masterbating and when I'm not doing it, I'm figuring out my next opportunity.

I just feel like it's the only way I can relax, feel good about myself, get to sleep, calm down etc etc.

I'm giving myself orgasms upto 4 times a day, everyday!!

am getting a bit worried about myself, why can't i just be satisfied with one every now and then like everyone else.

I feel like some crazy teenage boy, not a 35yr old mother of two!

Sagacious Sat 22-Aug-09 17:28:10

well its not doing you any actual harm is it?

corblimeymadam Sat 22-Aug-09 17:31:20

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orgjunkie Sat 22-Aug-09 17:31:50

well suppose not, but i'm doing stuff like putting kids in front of tele and locking myself in bathroom with porn, ignoring phone calls and people at the door cos I just HAVE to have an orgasm....that's awful isn't it?

JRocks Sat 22-Aug-09 17:31:53


GypsyMoth Sat 22-Aug-09 17:33:27

funny that....the porn thing!! what kind of porn then??

more of a male thing,porn.....

orgjunkie Sat 22-Aug-09 17:34:39

not porn really...erotic fiction

Sagacious Sat 22-Aug-09 17:34:39

Hmmm you feel like a teenage boy

Its not looking good really is it OP?

Mumcentreplus Sat 22-Aug-09 17:35:05

Don't stress about it I've had peaks and troughs with my sex long as it's not affecting other parts of your life it's ok to have a gulity it's free and has health benefits grin

corblimeymadam Sat 22-Aug-09 17:35:18

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SolidGoldBrass Sat 22-Aug-09 17:36:14

Hmm. ON the one hand, repeated masturbation will not make your foof fall off or anything (unless you are using some very unsafe methods of self-pleasuring like diddling yourself with a chainsaw).
ON the other hand, any behaviour which is becoming compulsive might be a sign of problems, whether it's wanking, handwashing or saying prayers. Have you recently had more stress added to your life?

theloneposter Sat 22-Aug-09 17:36:18

Why arn't you in the bathroom now? you obviously have some free time?

orgjunkie Sat 22-Aug-09 17:39:20

i am honestly NOT a teenage boy messing about. I'm a woman with an out of control sex drive.

Forget it...knew people wouldn't understand

Sagacious Sat 22-Aug-09 17:42:04

Weeel it depends how long you take TBH

If it takes you 30 mins x 4 each day then its clearly a problem (and putting your children in front of a tv isn;t that bad but 2hrs is Not Good)

OP you must realise that your OP would get a few hmm

MN's been weird (er) lately

Sagacious Sat 22-Aug-09 17:43:24

30mins being an average wink

If you're a supersonic 5 mins then I wouldn't consider it a problem [lucky cow]

MrsBarbaraKingstanding Sat 22-Aug-09 17:49:08

If you're not a troll....
Then I think you're probably bored, looking for comfort, excitment etc.

It's like over eating, people become 'addictde' to tihe the sensual pleasure and the satisfaction it gives, and then overindulge it.

It's entirely possible, and likley that this type of obbsessive sexual behaviour would occur in a middle aged women. Why wouldn't it?

Try to think of something else enjoyable you could replace masturbting with (not eating though) maybe mumsnet? But that is very addivtibe too......

dailymailIsPerfectAsaPoopScoop Sat 22-Aug-09 17:51:43

mrsB - you will be up for a flaming as many 35 year olds do not consider themselves Middle Aged grin grin

orgjunkie Sat 22-Aug-09 18:01:40

thanks, i have been under loads of extra stress and emotional pressure lately...maybe that's it.

bamboostalks Sat 22-Aug-09 18:03:49

God you should go for it, life is short. Keeping on wanking.

bamboostalks Sat 22-Aug-09 18:04:29


MrsBarbaraKingstanding Sat 22-Aug-09 18:06:28

Oh gawd, I didn't think of that!!

and I'm 39 and do not consider myself middle aged!grin

Sorry Orgjunkie (really terrible if apt name) I think I was just trying to imply that this does not necessarily have to be a teenage boys problem and could well be a problem of a normal 30something mother.

OJ, may be just tyr to cut it down, replace it with soemthing else during the day. Reassure yourself you're not a weirdo and I'm sure this phase will pass.

Unlikelyamazonian Sat 22-Aug-09 18:21:45

Remember this. had lost my ironing board. God life was carefree frank and boring back then.

dailymailIsPerfectAsaPoopScoop Sat 22-Aug-09 18:51:29

grin mrsB - i am 44 and not middle aged either!

OrmIrian Sat 22-Aug-09 18:52:42

I'm 44 and I am categorically not middle-aged! I am old. So there.

tribpot Sat 22-Aug-09 18:54:56

Cyndi Lauper has a view on this that may help.

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