I just need some advice really and didn't know where to turn. Sorry if its a bit long.
A lot of the arguments between my DH and me have been due to his possesiveness of his possessions. I have often been accused of not taking good care of things.
I think he is obsessive of his things. examples are his precious car will spend ages trying to find the perfect parking spot.
I have a one year old car that we bought brand new and he is always quizzing me about where I parked it, Saying thing like I've scratched it and to be honest I can't even see the scratches that he picks up on. I am finding this behaviour is wearing me down.
The other day we went in my car and there was a little bit of mess in the car as the kids do eat in there after swimming and there were crumbs etc. He had a massive argument with me about the mess in the car in front of the DC.Fgs its my car what is his problem
I find Im becoming inceasingly like him so I dont get picked on. Today I took the children out and spent ages finding the perfect parking spot so I would not get the car damaged. But then one of the DC aged 6 opened the car door and banged it into the wall and it now has a small dent nothing i would take too much notice off. I found myself shouting at my DC for doing this as I knew I would get a hard time for this, which I feel really bad about as its not like he meant to do it.
Anyway I decided i was not going to mention to DH but one of the DC did and straight away he had to go and inspect and has now been off with both my DS and myself. If its not the car its something else. I really have had enough of arguing about things like this. He's accused me of not telling them off enough. now that the DC are in bed asleep, I have just screamed at him and told him its a f car and I couldn't care less if its been scratched a little
If its not the car its scratching the DVD's the Tele the table. There is always something and i have just had enough. AHHHHHHHHHHHHh I just wanted to let that out, or is it me do I just not take care of thing well enough.
Sorry if there's spelling mistakes as I have typed very quickly and not read it again.
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mumsfrazzled · 19/08/2009 22:00
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