It will get better. You'll stop loving him and missing him, and start coping on your own - because what's the alternative? Like millions of women before you, and millions more to come, you'll take on the burden of raising your DC without him, and you'll do it to the best of your abilities.
You'll meet new people and make new friends - and you'll probably fall out with some of them. You'll fall in love again, and maybe you'll get your heart broken again, but you won't know till you try.
You wont believe it now but you will be like a pheonix from the ashes - you will come out of this stronger and confident because you will know that you were able to get on with things and hold it together while he decided to walk away.
It may take a while but you will get to the stage where you will feel nothing when you think of him. And, your dc will know that you were there for them - the strong one
And, as proof, I give you this thread, which I have just read from beginning to end. It covers a pretty long span of time, from the beginning of a break-up, through the dark, lonely days, and then the OP slowly gets stronger (with the odd setback) and it ends... well, you can look for yourself.
I'm in the midst of depression I think (well have been for about the last 2 years) caused by the moodiness and sullen attitude of ex and me trying to make it all ok, bend over backwards to be everything. Now I'm just exhausted.
To top it off I suffer badly from anxiety (due to all the stress). But I'm doing stuff to help myself (counselling etc etc).
I've also started my healthy eating today, as I always feel bleurgh when I haven't taken care of myself.
Anxiety and depression are crippling. I'm just clawing my way back out of it, but it's good to see others can do it and make it. And their lives get better.
yes it most definitely does get better inalc just take one day at a time, continue with the positive things you are doing. One day you will realise you haven't thought about him and the hurt for 24 hours, 48 hours, so on ... there is life beyond divorce. Don't forget lone parents' threads also as there are lots of us in the same boat
INALC Hope ur feeling like 2day has been easier for u.
Had a horrible low last night when he came round with no wedding ring on, hes obviously moved on so much more than me, got through thr finance chat and then started to cry, got a consolatory(?) rub on the arm as he left, cheers!
So i rang a mate and blubbed at her husband as she was doing bedtime and he coped pretty well!
Felt better by the end - his advice as a dad left holding the baby - was to think of something I enjoyed doing but didnt and work towards doing it again. So have promised myself i will dust off my paints and paint my boys a picture (i have had the canvas for nearly 3 years!).Might still take a while mind.