DS1's birthday and he goes to first match of the season with his friends. DH also goes with his own friends. As it is DS1's birthday when DH phones me just before match starts I ask him to come straight home after match to do the birthday cake thing mainly for the benefit of ds2 who is only 3. (ds1 is 18)
The plan is for ds1 and dh to go to local pub to celebrate (of which dh is partner in) and all their friends too. DH also stresses that it is his best mates birthday as well.
As we have no babysitter(DH had already suggested my mom but she could't)during the phone call I suggest I go to pub for a couple of hours and then he goes for a couple after me. This way we both could have drink with son, plus I have friends in there too. The pub is in my street so no hassles we could just swap over. At this he goes quiet and then says "oh whatever" and the line goes dead.
Ds1 comes home straight after match with a group of his mates and we do the cake/candles etc which DS2 loves. He gets ready and then he goes off to local pub.DH doesnt come home at all after match and heard nothing since. He is obviously in the pub with ds1.
Thanks for your replies. I do feel angry with DH and I just think he has been 'greedy'. I know whatever I say he will probably say I am being too sensitive or that I am over the top ie first match of season, mates birthday etc etc
You are right and I agree with all of you..it is just knowing what to do ...I always end up feeling as if i am the one in the wrong.
I still can't quite believe he didn't come back at all when he promised
if that was my (d)h his night better have been worth it! I would now be on strike as far as he is concerned. No washing, no cleaning no cooking for him. And definitely none of anything else for him!
I would also be organising a fab night out with all your friends. On said night when you are both ready to go and he asks who is babysitting i would smile sweetly and say you are dear and then hot foot it out the front door!