Advanced search

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

DH is dying - NOT

(31 Posts)
uncaring Thu 26-May-05 17:17:07

Why am I soooo angry with him?

He has had a cold (with cough, more annoying that way) for over a week, and 2 days ago said his ear hurt. He's prone to ear infections, so I said "go to docs".

Today he did go (we can get same day appts here), got ear drops, has come home, retired to bed (ALL day), and when I go in the bedroom to sort washing or something he looks all pathetic.
He's unshaven, smells sweaty cos of being under the duvet all day, and to make things worse he keeps farting (he says cos of the painkillers). He complained at me for opening the bedroom window, but it smells like a midden in there!!

He had yesterday off work, and spent all day asleep, but it didn't annoy me cos I was at work, anyway, I thought he'd be better today. I'm just a heartless cow today aren't I. How do I make myself sympathetic?

SoupDragon Thu 26-May-05 17:18:53


uncaring Thu 26-May-05 17:20:02

you're not helping ....

Stilltrue Thu 26-May-05 17:20:07

Bad case of manflu then? 2 days in bed?? Women generally just don't or can't do that; that's why you're irritated. I'm not surprised

ssd Thu 26-May-05 17:34:39

stinky pig!

I think you should be a teeny bit sympathetic and when he begins to show signs of recovery YOU get the flu and take to your bed!

SoupDragon Thu 26-May-05 17:36:11

I know - but I can visualise it perfectly but with my dh substituted. They're useless aren't they? bless them.

TrophyWife Thu 26-May-05 18:09:15

sorry no help, but my dh is the same....

Aragon Thu 26-May-05 18:51:59

Ahh! Bless. He has a mans cold. The sort that sends him to bed for two days. Just you try doing the same when it's you though.
"What - you're going to bed again".

jjash Thu 26-May-05 18:56:57

aah - manflu ! where they lose the ability to use their limbs and cannot possibly stretch 2cm to reach the remote control/cup of tea/tissues etc.

TinyGang Thu 26-May-05 19:01:30

Yes, but it's soooo much WORSE when they get it.
Dh had the snip recently. Don't get me wrong, I am sympathetic and he was brave to do it and didn't complain and all - but really, what a kerfuffle.. He had a couple of really tiny stiches and there was LOT of sitting down and fuss and ice packs and cups of tea.

Er , HELLO - I've had 3 children - more stiches than the Bayeaux Tapestry and winced up and down for England night and day looking after them all having given birth! (not telling any of you guys anything, I know!)

moondog Thu 26-May-05 19:16:20

lol at the thought of blaming the painkillers for the farting!

Pinotmum Thu 26-May-05 19:21:33

Tell him to get up and have a shower and brush his teeth and he'll feel better. Tell him he'll get bed sores if he doesn't get moving and then he'll need more of those fart inducing pain killers. Don't sympathise what ever you do it will only encourage him. Now I know why my dh is never ill

californiagirl Thu 26-May-05 20:08:44

DH got up this morning and said pitifully "I don't know about you, but I think I'm coming down with that cough the baby's got". He doesn't know about me? He somehow managed to miss the cough that deafens people 3 offices away at work? He's forgotten the cough that interrupted sex LAST NIGHT!?! Umm, no, I didn't come down with that cough 3 days ago, I just make this horrible noise because it amuses me.

Sorry, that doesn't help you at all, does it?

morningpaper Thu 26-May-05 20:10:19


uncaring Thu 26-May-05 20:15:46

The thing is, he could get a gold medal for farting anyway, so why the painkillers make a difference I don't know.

He has actually got up now, cos I threatened that I'd let ds go and jump on the bed (actually I couldn't stop him, he loves leaping on anyone who is in bed).

DH still holds his head with both hands when he starts to cough tho'. !!!

tillykins Thu 26-May-05 20:16:29

Aren't they annoying?!
My husband hurt his knee shortly after I had a baby and announced "you don't know what pain like this is like" ??????!!!!

uncaring Thu 26-May-05 20:19:40

Oh, and I've pulled the duvet back and sprinkled the bed liberally with perfume so I can sleep in it tonight. Sorry, I don't do bed changing at 8 o'clock in the evening.

It's first job on the list tomorrow tho', so he'd better get up.

I'm being very jolly, saying that the antibiotic drops will have started to make a difference by morning. He keeps saying he can't hear me.

PinkFluffPudding Thu 26-May-05 20:24:59

Don't blame you for being pissed off, men have a way off making their symptoms sound life or death whereas we're meant to just get on with ours... i've had a cold all week and wanted nothing better than to lie down but have had to keep going to look after dd!

PinkFluffPudding Thu 26-May-05 20:26:47

DH blames EVERYTHING for his farting - whether it's my cooking, my mum's, his mum's, some beer he drank, you name it, everything but his own flatulent bowel gets blamed for it.

PMSL at painkillers though... that's a new one!

HappyDaddy Fri 27-May-05 09:33:25

I don't do any of that, I just get on with things. Does that make me an honourary woman? See what happens when you're brought up solely by your mum?

ggglimpopo Fri 27-May-05 09:39:02

Message withdrawn

huggybear Fri 27-May-05 09:39:47

i have to admit im worse than dh im a right wuss!

ggglimpopo Fri 27-May-05 09:43:03

Message withdrawn

MarsLady Fri 27-May-05 09:59:30

Tinygang I see your DH's snip and raise you an infection of the urinary tract. DH is a cyberchondriac. I can't find the article in the Times to do a link. He was playing footie the week after the snip. Like your DH nothing really wrong with him. Then every time he felt an ache or pain he blamed the op. He would look on some man's vasectomy site and say.... "see, I told you it wasn't straightforward". Then he would enter his symptons onto some medical site and bob's your uncle (fanny's your aunt) he had something else.

ggglimpopo Fri 27-May-05 10:02:43

Message withdrawn

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: