A few weeks ago DD (4) and I left my emotionally abusive and controlling ex - note on the table, bags packed and disappeared. The reason I did it this way was because he is so controlling and I was very scared as to how he might react. Previously he's ranted and raved, not let me sleep, followed me round the house until I gave in and agreed with him. Some of you know my story and it culminated in me collapsing and spending a month in hospital with a stress-related condition.
I was expecting him to go nuts, really angry and genuinely wasn't sure if he'd be violent. But it was the opposite - two very polite text messages in the first week hoping I was OK. Second week he started seeing DD and my solicitor advised levels of contact. It's only been a handful of times, but he's been late or changed the times on virtually every visit and said I was over-reacting and being unreasonable when I asked him to be punctual. On yesterday's visit, he got a friend of hers round and went to his office to work.
Now he wants to try collaborative law - you and your solicitors sit round a table and mutually agree contact, property and finances. The benefits are it's quicker, a lot cheaper and less adverserial. My questions is should I do this or is it him playing more games?
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Should I try collaborative law with abusive ex?
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queenofdenial2009 · 13/08/2009 16:56
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