Just venting my anger -

[Robeena]

I think I am pretty reasonable tolerable wife ? as you can imagine with 3 kids under 4 I don?t get out much, but I have never stopped my husband going out with his mates ? I mean this Thursday he is going to a 3 day cricket session up in Leeds!

Yet when I tell him that I want to catch up with a girlfriend in London one Friday night I get this

? You need to be careful about making these arrangements, London at night is a different place to the daytime (lots of drunks and people not really concerned about what others think ? spitting, yelling, aggressive, drunk) plus it is not nice travelling home by train late at night, Kings Cross is full of drunks (loud and obnoxious and aggressive) and our town is not any better (in fact its worse) plus the train itself is not great. Do you want to put yourself in these positions travelling by yourself, its not really safe for women by themselves.

So when I said that I used to go into London every Friday night when I was single ? I get this:

You are older, have responsibilities that you never had before and biggest of all times have changed in the 10 years or more since you did it.
I think its silly to put yourself in situations if they can be avoided, I think you should work something else out, if we were local to London and you weren?t travelling alone then I?d say fine. Why can?t you get your girlfriend to come here and go out in our town?

WTF!!!!

[VinegarTits]

oh god forbid, a poor meek little woman, out on her own after dark

where does he keep his club? in your cave?

just tell him you will stay over night at your GF's that way you dont have to travel home alone, you can both get a taxi back to her place, safe and sound, what a nob.

[Robeena]

Do you know I am tempted just to book into a hotel - the thought of 24 hours without kids hounding me is so tempting!

[VinegarTits]

Dont be tempted, just book it!

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

Do it - if he can go away then so can you!

A night in a hotel on my own sounds wonderful - a lovely bath and a nice glass of wine. And sleeeeep

[OldLadyKnowsNothing]

If he can disappear for three days, you can have a night in London. Book somewhere lovely and stay over!

[Doha]

Go for it

[SlartyBartFast]

remove your ball and chain - for one night only!

[Robeena]

I think I will.

I just read his effing email again and he sounds like my dad!!!! I think I married my father!!!

[SlartyBartFast]

sounds like my dh!

could he have a point can you stay with your GF?
will it be late when you come back on the train and will you be on yoru ownsome? or is it a fairly busy line?

[Robeena]

It's a fairly busy line - main commuter route - but our town is just AWFUL!!!

Why do people hang around the train station at night???

My girlfriend is also coming into London from Surrey so London is just a meeting point. We live in Hertfordshire.

[SlartyBartFast]

if you are sure then i agree, you will be fine!
you are grown ups.
i spose it is nice he cares

[hmc]

Well, whilst he is OTT, his motivation isn't to stop you from going out, just to stop you from going somewhere which he perceives as dangerous (wrongly, no doubt). So at least he cares!

[mamas12]

Say thanks for pointing out the dangers and because of his input you will be staying in a hotel in London How wonderful to be so thoughtful darling

[Mumcentreplus]

You say 'Really?..Well thanks for that information'..get dressed and give him a big kiss and leave...

[Ozziegirly]

mamas12 that's what I'd do.

Say, "oh yes, I do agree, London is dangerous. I've taken your advice on board and booked into a hotel - thanks for that suggestions".

And breeze out, doing this face behind your hand.

[ZacharyQuack]

Would your girlfriend be interested in staying in a hotel too? Then you can go out for brunch/shopping on the Saturday and make your way home in time for the dinner that your DH has waiting for you.