Met a guy online about six weeks ago, tall, dark, v scrummy and a perfect gentleman.
We go on, oooh about six dates, he introduces me to his friends, he stays at mine 3x ( we didn't quite get the deed done but came close...)
So far so good.
We had a right laugh together. He texts me most days. He drops hints about coming to visit more often ( notes nearby train stations etc. )
Then, he goes away for a week, but doesn't arrange to meet just before he goes. . .I find this weird and ask him: 'Do you want to see me again?' Yes he says does, I am 'great' apparently and he will drop me a line when he gets back. Then no text, no calls, zip for seven days.
I wait. Text him on his return. "hey good holiday? What's going on?' type thing. . And nothing. Not a peep. I don't even know if he's okay.
Why the feck can't men just say: 'I am not interested, sorry. . . '
This has happened to several of my girlfriends and seems so, well, immature. I've done it plenty of times- simple text: 'sorry don't want to take things further, goodbye and take care. . .'
Obv he has decided he doesn't want to take things further, but I really liked the guy and have been looking forward to his return etc. Can't believe he's actually just going to 'leave it' and not even say it !!!
when a guy did this to me (years ago) i phoned and demanded an explanation. i think he was taken aback that i was brave enough to do it, he thought i was just going to meekly wait for him to ring (wrong!). and i was satisfied that i knew what was going on so i could move on!
I met this guy in America many, many years ago. We hit it off and had a great time for a few weeks. I thought it might get serious. After I flew home, he said something about a 'great flood', changed his email address and phone number and disappeared off the face of the planet.
I found out recently that he'd been seeing another woman who he since married.
Men are so, so annoying sometimes.
And no, I don't THINK I'm a weird bunny boiling stalker...
interesting. As the Relationships section is regualarly spiced with female posters in a quandary about what to do with new men - showing ambivalences etc, which I am pretty sure they don't share with the new beau. Not that these is anything wrong with that. It just isn't a gender-specific thing at all.
carmen - with respect, U.S. bloke hadn't made any noises of 'commitment', or things getting serious did he??
Incidentally, i once had a couple of "dates" with this bloke who i thought i quite liked. We had a glass of wine or two one night then decided to lay down on the bed (yes really!). Anyway, we ended having a little fumble and when i went to touch his man(?)hood he said "sorry but there's not much there". Boy he wasn't lieing!!! It was the smallest willy i've ever felt!! Needless to say thankfully things didn't go any further other than me saying "oh right" and leaving it there lol. So to cut a long story short, i never saw or heard from him again after that, which is why i can fully justify my "crap in bed" theory.