Have namechanged for this obv.
DH has been going through an odd patch over the last few years. He walked out on me for a few days while I was pg with DS and neither of us were sure whether he was coming back. But after a weekend in a cheap hotel he "missed me" and did come back. He has always worked (yes, and played) hard but since DS was born he has increasingly started staying v late "at work" - 3am not unusual - sometimes he has stayed out overnight. He also has not been interested in sex (with me) for some years but I have been putting that down to depression (which he's now getting help for).
But now I am getting this sinking feeling there's something else going on. He spends a lot of time on internet "adult" chat/webcam websites (I haven't mentioned this to him, but they keep coming up on his history and he is a registered user and frequent visitor of the sites).
Also, in the last year (basically since DS was born) he has stopped donating blood. No other reason to stop donating blood - no tattoos or blood transfusions etc.
This week he told me I was a "good wife" but it came out a bit strange - after a long pause iyswim.
Basically I am wondering if he is cheating on me. And if he is, I want to know about it and be prepared - so I can sort out the legal side, re-plan my finances etc. Because if he has been cheating, I bloody do not want to be with him. DH's mum took DH's dad back far too many times for the same offence.
Have looked at his phone but no incriminating texts that I can see. Can't find an extra phone anywhere. Can't access his bank details (online).
Can anyone recommend where I should go from here to investigate further? I'm not going to turn into a sherlock holmes, but I'm guessing that if my suspicions are true, given that he doesn't yet know I suspect him they should be fairly easy to verify if only I knew where/how to look.
?SIM card reader
?tracker in car
.....
Unfortunately he doesn't talk in his sleep!!
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Gathering evidence of DH's suspected infidelity - advice please! (sorry long)
NameChangedObviously · 04/08/2009 23:56
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