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My marriage is over

(6 Posts)
lumpsdumps Tue 04-Aug-09 14:36:26

Have found conversations with another woman on the internet and yet he sees nothing wrong with it. Am really upset that he's done this to me. I don't know what to do now.

tiredoftherain Tue 04-Aug-09 14:46:09

It totally sucks, unfortunately in the past fortnight I've found out similar things about my h. I went mad and left but am back until we can sort things out. I think you have to set out your boundaries now, and if he can't respect them there really isn't much choice on what to do. I know if I forgive this time, it will set a precedent and it will happen again.

lumpsdumps Tue 04-Aug-09 15:37:53

have told him that I'm moving out and taking my kids with me. I'm under alot of stress at the moment and he's sat at home talking about sex with this woman whilst I'm out working. It really hurts that he's done this.

OrangeFish Tue 04-Aug-09 15:43:11

Ok, ok. First. Is this really the end? could you work things up? try counselling? talking? etc?

I know that the first response to find something like this is the need to get away of it all with your children under your arm but WAIT.

For the sake of your future and that of your children stay. You can ask him to move out if things do not work work, but it is he who should be experiencing the difficulties not you and your children (unless he is violent, of course, and you need out ASAP for your own safety)

lumpsdumps Tue 04-Aug-09 15:48:52

The house is his and so won't move out, and the kids are mine so I haven't got alot of choice. I feel totally betrayed by him and he's even denied he's done anything, though I found it all on the history, and it went into great detail of our sex life and what he wants to do to her.

OrangeFish Tue 04-Aug-09 16:54:22

If you are married and you are in England, that house is yours no matter on which name it is.

But don't write off the marriage just yet, things can still be worked out

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