Basically, I've been with my partner for around 3 years. Never loved him. Got together on convenience grounds on both sides (he wanted a wife and mother for his kid and I wanted a partner and good influence on my kids) and its time to part.
I always thought he was using me. Now I don't think he was. I'm scared he genuinly loves me because I never set out to hurt him, I thought we were both doing it for convenience. Seems I was wrong.
I have saved up £1000 and am ready to leave. I am ready to start a new life, on my own with my teenage boys. He is NOT ready to be on his own. As far as I know, he has NO IDEA I am considering leaving, let alone the fact that I have pretty much house secured etc.
Do I start up an argument, make him glad he's rid of me or tell him the truth which is he's just not the man that I want to spend the rest of my days with?
JUST sit him down and blurt it out. I WAITED 3 MONTHS AFTER I FOUND OUT MY EX WAS MESSING ME AROUND AND THEN I WAITED TIl last week in march and told him point blank that i wanted him to leave my home on april 1st and he did. WE ARE STILL GOOD FRIENDS AND EVERYTHING IS AMICABLE. when u make your mind up and there is no right time ,just do it, dont create a row ,do it calmy ,it has more impact