I have been with my partner for almost 10 years and have very recently had our first child (he's 7 weeks old). I have always had a reasonable relationship with my in-laws even though there are certain things that I dont like (always correcting other people's grammer, very bitchy about other people, blah blah) but we've got on. Things have changed since I had my baby. My mother-in-law in particular is just too over-bearing for me. She wants to see the baby all the time and texts me asking to come around. The fact is, I dont really want her to. I understand that she wants to see her grandchild but I don't like her coming around, offering 'advice', and bitching about everyone (including my own mum who she's met twice!) - especially when my dp isn't even around to share the experience! She has just text me saying shes bought a cot and when can our baby sleep over? Well the way I'm feeling never! How do I handle this? My partner tells me I should be honest with her and tell her I don't want her to come around when she texts and asks to pop over but I don't think that will help family relations at all. I'm torn because I want my baby to have a good realtionship with his grandparents (and I dont want to slag off dp's mum to him too much - it is his mum after all) but equally I want to be left alone to enjoy my time with my baby with the friends and family I like before having to go back to work. Sorry if this sounds a whiney post - lack of sleep isn't helping!
Hope someone out there can offer me a way out of this peacefully
xx
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How do I handle my mother-in-law? Advice please!
campergirl30 · 03/08/2009 21:52
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