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divorced but keeping ex's surname, do i use Ms or Miss or Mrs???????

(11 Posts)
princessdaisyboo Mon 03-Aug-09 14:10:38

hi
im recently divorced but have decided to keep ex's surname as we have dd with his surname, but do i revert back to a miss or do i become a Ms or do i have to still say Mrs???

oldraver Mon 03-Aug-09 14:11:39

Whatever you choose to do, its entirely up to you

MamaLazarou Mon 03-Aug-09 14:13:01

Whatever you like - there are no rules.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Mon 03-Aug-09 15:14:57

Whatever you want. I would be Ms personally, as it doesn't allude to your marital status. Miss and Mrs are a bit inaccurate I think.

But I'm a lifelong Ms anyway

princessdaisyboo Mon 03-Aug-09 17:38:31

ok ill be a mysterious Ms for now, until some gorgeous sexy fun kind man comes along and asks me to marry him!!! ha ha

twigsblankets Mon 03-Aug-09 19:45:11

I might have this totally wrong, but aren't you legally obliged to revert to Miss or at least call yourself Ms after a divorce, for tax and possibly benefit purposes?

I might be way off the mark, but my friend preferred her married name, so kept it, yet when she was unemployed, and went to jobcentre for JSA, the jobcentre explained that legally, she wasn't married any longer, so Mrs B no longer existed, therefore it could be construed as a fraudulent claim if it was not as a Miss or Ms.

Like I said though, I could be totally wrong, and apologies in advance if I am. blush

CantThinkofFunnyName Mon 03-Aug-09 19:46:48

Nope - not legally obliged - as other posters said, entirely up to you. I don't think though you CAN revert to Miss and keep the marital surname because that is incorrect.

I have been divorced twice and in both cases kept the marital name but used the title Ms....

twigsblankets Mon 03-Aug-09 21:15:47

Ahhh, maybe that's where I was getting confused.

I think my friend told jobcentre her name was Miss B, when in fact, she used her married surname, but used the title Miss.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Mon 03-Aug-09 22:02:03

jobcentreplus talk out of their arses on most subjects. You can call yourself whatever you want.

bigstripeytiger Mon 03-Aug-09 22:09:25

Im sure that you can use miss, ms or mrs, though I think that it wouldnt be logical to keep the married name and use 'miss'.

Parmageddon Mon 03-Aug-09 22:14:04

I started calling myself "Ms" when I first was divorced. But I got so bored of constantly being asked "is that Mrs?" when I gave my surname, that I gave up and used Mrs. It doesn't really seem to matter that much to me now!

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