Some history- have been together for 11 years and got married 2 months ago. We have a DS who is 4. Have had a terrible year. I had a termination in Feb and he responded by registering on internet sex dating sites.
Lots of hurt and tears but thought we had put it all behind us. Got married, lovely day, honeymoon etc and then last Monday in a row he called me a 'Lazy Fat Cunt'. I am devestated. Anyway I told him I would not share a home with him and he is now living elsewhere.
He has booked couples counselling for us and it starts in 2 weeks. The thing is there is no remorse, not even a sorry...nothing. He owns restaraunts so works crazy hours so my lovely boy hasn't noticed really that he isn't around and I want to make this as painless as possible.
I know he is having a bad time at work but thats no excuse is it? I am overweight (size 16) but my weight has never been an issue or so I thought. But clearly is...
Anyway I am not sure why I am here just wanted to vent...
no on, no on at all. You mention your termination, do you think this is what he wants counselling about? i suppose willingness for counselling shows willingness to work on things but that really is an unkind thing to say
Just read your post and although I have nothing useful to say, just wanted to write something. So sorry it's not going well, but on the plus side, the counselling may make him see that what he said was totally out of order. Big hug.
I don't think this is a size issue at all, it's just an easy way to insult and hurt someone. If it hasn't been an issue in the past, then it's just something he's chucked in there to hurt you. That doesn't make it ok though. Sounds like he has some anger issues. Hope the counselling helps.