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For the first time in years i feel really alive

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needacoldshower Sun 02-Aug-09 08:37:40

dont quite know where else to put this really. - but just feel so amazing.
Rocky relationship with now soon to be ex dh. We were together for almost 10 years. 1 dd.
Lots of cheating, rows, little by little i lost myself and i didnt even realise it. Totally lost my sex drive too ( thought it was my problem... i now realise it was my hed telling me i didnt want to have sex with him anymore)
I finally kicked him out and am making a new life for myself. SOme days its really difficult, but on the whole its a lot beter.
Well, - ive been having a look on the dating sites, more of a something to do in a evening for a bit of fun. Not met anyone on there,... until yesterday.
Had been speaking to him on and off for a few weeks. Fri we really got chatting...( i posted thread on fri asking if it was slutty to meet up for just sex!!!) sat am, bit the bullet and met him and fucked all day.
I feel amazing. Like ive not felt in years. I dont care if i dont hear from him again ( though i suspect i will...!) just wow.
Just feels like a major turning point and i feel like me again.
which is a really wonderful thing to happen.
Im not advocating everyone go out and do the same. I just want to say to those that are having a hard time, cant see when it will get better and just feel like they dont know themselves anymore. You are in there.. dont give up!

thesouthsbelle Sun 02-Aug-09 08:39:24

twopeople Sun 02-Aug-09 08:52:46

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LoveMyGirls Sun 02-Aug-09 09:17:45

Wow congratulations!!!!!!!!! grin I'm having a trip down memory lane can you tell?

aurynne Sun 02-Aug-09 09:21:43


Enjoy and have all the fun you can ;)

catwalk Sun 02-Aug-09 09:31:46


StirlingTheTired Sun 02-Aug-09 10:23:39

So pleased for you!!

There is life after marriage, that is good to know smile

YanknCock Sun 02-Aug-09 11:08:38

I had the same feeling when I finally decided to end my first marriage...

Went out, shagged someone else just to put the final nail in the coffin of a dead, argumentative, sexless marriage, and felt fab. And I ended up marrying him, with baby on the way in 3 weeks!

AbricotsSecs Sun 02-Aug-09 11:55:56

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poshsinglemum Sun 02-Aug-09 12:22:46

I'm so jealous and desperately need a shag right now so I don't blame you at all! Well done!

MuthaHubbard Sun 02-Aug-09 12:26:26

yay....go you!!! grin

winnie09 Sun 02-Aug-09 12:35:12

Glad you are feeling great smile

wendynut Sun 02-Aug-09 13:36:10

Good luck to you girl! Can't remember what it feels like myself but glad there's someone out there going for it!! wink

needacoldshower Sun 02-Aug-09 14:58:22

honestly - i do feel great. Total self confidence boost.
Just what i needed. So glad i went through with it.

Still smiling

UghNo Sun 02-Aug-09 18:27:30

Excellent! Which dating sites do people recommend, btw? H and I living seperately in the same house (post his affair and failure to do anything to make it up). Confidence much needed.
online dating might help ease me back into the pool!

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