To cut a long story short, I've been separated from xh for about 1.5 years. He was and still is incredibly controlling and made my life hell.
Tonight was my weekend with ds and I took him to the local carnival. I text his dad and told him that we wouldn't be at home when he called because we were at the carnival and that ds would call afterwards. At the carnival xh turns up and comes and stands with me, ds and my friends. It was horrible and very uncomfortable and then ds watched carnival with xh and not me, even though I took him and wanted to watch it with him. He left at about 7.30 having spent over half hour with ds.
Within 15 minutes there was a call on my mobile accusing me of putting the phone down on xh and demanding that I call him back immediately. Think he wanted to say goodnight to ds despite having just seen him. I ignored this.
When we got home, ds rang him but it went to answer phone so he left a message. I then put him to bed as it was 9.15 by this time. I then took a phone call and at the same time received several messages from xh asking me to cut short my phone call so that he could say goodnight to ds. It was very late and I didn't want to cut short my phone call for what seemed an unnecessary call since he had only just seen ds. I text him to say he could ring mobile which he wouldn't do. After several texts from him insisting I put the phone down, he rang the mobile but it kept cutting out. In the end I rang his mobile but it just went to answer phone. By this time it's 10 pm and I was sick of his horrible messages so I turned my mobile off. I then heard a car outside the house and looked out of the window to see him sitting there. I was freaked out by this time and in tears on phone to my partner who was trying to calm me down. Xh then seemed to drive off.
I turned my phone on about 5 minutes ago to quite a few texts and messages telling me that if he didn't get to speak to ds then he would call the police to get a welfare check done on him and that I was blocking telephone contact with ds.
I bend over backwards to make sure he gets as much contact as he wants. I never say no unless I have something specific planned.
Is he being a complete abusive idiot. I feel like I've done something wrong and am so confused. Would really like some feedback on this one as I feel like I'm going crazy.
Sorry this is so long.
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Can someone help me get some perspective on this please
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ilovetrees · 01/08/2009 23:50
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