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OK any of you having trouble with your sex drive! How would one increase there sex drive?

(19 Posts)
3peasinapod Fri 31-Jul-09 23:06:40

Name change for this one.

I'm 27 have 3 kids youngest is turning one next week.
Life is hectic at the mo, as it is with 3 kids and life's demands.
But my sex drive has reached an all time low. I know it's common for dry spells, but i just dont feel like it at all lately. Love DH and our relationship is great. I know sex after having kids would not be the same as before, but now its the one position and about once a week.
Does anyone know of remidies or anything that can increase my sex drive? or did anyone have a problem like this?
Any help would be greatly appricated.

random Fri 31-Jul-09 23:09:38

Drink Vodka wink works for me

stressed2007 Fri 31-Jul-09 23:10:28

I suspect with 3 kids and 1 under 1 many on here would say once a week isn't bad going.....waits for general concensus

stressed2007 Fri 31-Jul-09 23:12:17

what were you like before your last child? This is all relative some on here may be once a night and others once a month - it depends on what is normal for you.

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours Fri 31-Jul-09 23:14:25

I'm having a similar thing going on, which is a shock to me because I've always wanted it more than DH. Apparantly the way to get it back is to just do it - even if you don't fancy it - regularly. This in turn will increase your sex drive. The more you have it the more you want it.

Am waiting for DH to get his vasectomy (as got caught rather by surprise with DS and don't want another baby - love DS to bits though, and DD) before trying this out.

MyCatIsABiggerBastardThanYours Fri 31-Jul-09 23:15:23

Just read the once a week thing - I'd be REALLY happy with once a week. Can't remember the last time I did it!

3peasinapod Fri 31-Jul-09 23:27:09

Thanks ladies,

We were once a night or at least 5 times a week kinda thing. Emmmm vodka could help!! grin but then i have kids to deal with in the morning.
Would love DH to have a vasectomy, but he wont!! angry man thing. Will have to go at it like rabbits to see if i can make this situation better...

Paolosgirl Fri 31-Jul-09 23:27:12

Once a week???? Bloody hell, dh would love once a week!!

TDiddy Fri 31-Jul-09 23:36:54

Aerobic exercise! Apart from helping circulation, the endorphins does wonders for your sense of well being. Also helps your sleep. Try mornings if you can make that work. Flirt with your DP.

cat64 Fri 31-Jul-09 23:53:35

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3peasinapod Sun 02-Aug-09 00:12:27

Right drank most of a bottle of wine!!! hick up grin am on for anything!!!! grin
Even managed it twice last night!!! shock

OurLadyOfPerpetualSupper Sun 02-Aug-09 00:25:51

DH would be a very happy bunny if he was getting it once a week.

TDiddy Sun 02-Aug-09 07:40:45

I think men in the 20s and 30s are generally up for it a few times a week. Perhaps we will slow down in our 40s.

3peasinapod Sun 02-Aug-09 19:28:52

Well the vino worked! But what ever romance we had last night is gone today due to the demands of 3 kids! O well more vino perhaps..
TDiddy Emmm i wonder..

TDiddy Sun 02-Aug-09 20:17:49

I was thinking; where is 3peas? Is this the time that you get out of bed smile

prettyfly1 Sun 02-Aug-09 20:46:30

apparently ahem reconnectinh with yourself can really help as well!

ilikeshoes Sun 02-Aug-09 21:04:21

I actually found sex after children better, have you tried`reading things not smutty, just a novel witha bit of raunch in it.wink

3peasinapod Sun 02-Aug-09 22:58:34

TDiddy
With 3 small kids i am never in bed long enough these days!! lol grin

Prettyfly1 & ilikeshoes
Could give reconnecting while reading a raunch novel a go!

Also from tommorw onwards i am changing my eating habits, less rubish and more fruit and good stuff!!! (shall see what tommmorw brings wink)

ilikeshoes Mon 03-Aug-09 19:59:43

My friend just suggested an image change, like your hair colour or somrthing, to make you feel better about yourself.smile.

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