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Am I too sensitive or does partner lack any delicacy

(40 Posts)
Leka Wed 29-Jul-09 20:19:16

I am scheduled for a pregnancy termination toworrow - something I am torn up about - and my partner jokingly referred to me as "murderer." Is this out of line?

SixtyFootDoll Wed 29-Jul-09 20:20:04

what a charmer
very out of order

FromGirders Wed 29-Jul-09 20:20:06

seriously out of line. sad for you.
All the best.

kormachameleon Wed 29-Jul-09 20:20:27

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flatcapandpearls Wed 29-Jul-09 20:21:13

Very wrong.

diedandgonetodevon Wed 29-Jul-09 20:21:35

Very wrong.
Like Korma, that would send me packing.

Hassled Wed 29-Jul-09 20:21:49

That would be a complete deal breaker for me. You must be in bits already - that's just a terrible thing to say. I'm sorry.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Wed 29-Jul-09 20:22:17

of course

lovie why would you need to ask? sad

do you want the baby?

Leka Wed 29-Jul-09 20:22:28

Thank you _ I thought so to but he has a way of making me seem unreasonable and I get so muddled.

andiem Wed 29-Jul-09 20:23:09

awful just awful
deal breaker for me too
take care

FabBakerGirlIsBack Wed 29-Jul-09 20:23:24

I think you should get rid of the man and keep the baby

kormachameleon Wed 29-Jul-09 20:23:25

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PerArduaAdNauseum Wed 29-Jul-09 20:23:35

Is he 12? Seriously, this is immature, insensitive, words fail me...

Leka Wed 29-Jul-09 20:23:37

Yes - to Fab- I do but the way our relationship is going I can't.

onepieceoflollipop Wed 29-Jul-09 20:24:06

I am very shocked by this. He sounds a very unpleasant man. Leka it sounds like you are going through a very difficult time. People on here are always ready to listen and support you.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Wed 29-Jul-09 20:24:15

so are you leaving him?

kormachameleon Wed 29-Jul-09 20:26:34

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Leka Wed 29-Jul-09 20:26:42

It's a bit complicated - I'm without a residence permit in his country so have no way to earn a living and no means of my own. I have to go because I hear him coming up the stairs.

TheProfiteroleThief Wed 29-Jul-09 20:27:02

I don't wish to upset - but was the termination your decision or his influence? Are you sure this is what you want to do or have to do?

I honestly don't mean to make anything harder, but if you have been exposed to someone making comments like this, it must have been very hard to make a decision.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Wed 29-Jul-09 20:27:18

this is all wrong sad

PerArduaAdNauseum Wed 29-Jul-09 20:29:19

Leka - if you come back to this - whether you keep this baby or not, please really consider whether you need this man in your life? Is he a positive influence for any other DCs? There's always a way out - being in another country won't make it impossible

xx

Lakota Wed 29-Jul-09 20:31:59

Thinking of you whatever you decide, please make the right decision for YOU though, not anybody else. He sounds horrible, to be honest.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Wed 29-Jul-09 20:39:53

And a bully sad

Leka Wed 29-Jul-09 20:40:18

He has a daughter from a previous relationship who adores her brother and before he was born I promised that I would never take him away from her back to my country - but I don't know how I can make ends meet with not being able to be here (Holland) legally.

If I'm away suddenly, it's because it's not safe to write.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Wed 29-Jul-09 20:41:32

sad

It can't be safe to live with him either in that case.

Please rethink your future.

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