Namechanging as don't want to be outed. I'm so confused and upset I feel like my head is about to explode. DP and I met when my DS1 was 2. We now have DS2 together and have been together 4 years.
DP very early on in our relationship said that my family (particularly my mum & dad) interfere too much with DS1 and I shouldn't let them over rule me. I suppose I did let them interfere because of lack of confidence (I was a young single mum). Recently the bad feeling seems to have got out of control. DP has a few rules for the DC's such as they're not allowed Macdonalds and coca cola etc. My family ignore these rules repeatedly which obviously riles DP.
I have spoken to my family about it and they say DP only limits the DC's because he is controlling and he only stops the DC's having what they give them. DP says that my family ignore him and undermine him because they see DC's as 'theirs'. Just had a big argument with my sister about it as she said that DP controls the dc's and I and it's hard for my family because they could do what they wanted with DS1 before DP came along. Neither my DP or my family talk to each other about it, all the bitching from both sides is directed at me. I'm so stressed about it that I dread any family occasion (because of the fallout) for days beforehand and avoid it as much as I can. I've tried telling all of them that they should discuss it with each other and leave me out of it but to no avail. I feel like getting in the car with the dc's and just driving as far away as possible. What can I do? Shall I just accept it and never arrange anything together?
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notalot · 27/07/2009 15:55
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