... to "in a relationship" complete with photos of herself and new bloke.
She asked my brother to move out 2 months ago and he's been with me ever since in the spare room.
He didn't know about the new man until he looked at Facebook this morning.
I am so cross on his behalf. I know life goes on and a new relationship was inevitable at some point but am so annoyed that she didn't even have the decency to tell my brother before announcing to all and sundry over Facebook.
He has his children every other weekend and they have been here since Friday night - SIL used to be an earth mother but all of a sudden can't wait to get rid of the children (presumably so she can spend time with this bloke). My brother is under strict instructions not to return them until 7 tonight - oh and she hasn't phoned once to see how they are.
Two weeks ago my niece was 9 and my brother went over with my parents to take presents and cards. Sister in law was asked first - they didn't just show up. So they went and then she pointedly excluded them. My parents (who have bent over backwards to help her and my brother financially over the years) felt very unwanted and unwelcome. No birthday cake was cut as they were waiting for sister in laws brother and were then all going to order food in. It was made plain that this wouldn't happen until her brother arrived. They sat one side of the room and my parents and brother sat the other side. Mum tried to talk but was cut dead with one word yes and no answers. My auntie is dying of cancer and sister in law could not even manage a "how is auntie M". Forgive me for feeling really angry and upset about her behaviour.
I am so tempted to phone or write to her and point out that her actions have been hurtful and inconsiderate but cannot as that would just inflame everything. But can I just call her a "biiitttcchhh" here - there that feels better!
My son will be 7 in December and my niece and nephew will get an invite to the birthday party as will their Mum. No way will I sink to the level she has.
God it feels good to offload that.
As you all were.
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JollyPirate · 26/07/2009 16:09
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