I'm working, and (thank God) we have no dependents so money hasn't yet started to become the dominant issue. I worry about it, though, and it's not something we're good at discussing together. Dh is the best H in the world on almost every front but he's got the potential to be quite childish when it comes to money, never wanting to have in-depth discussions about financial future. But right now as I say, that isn't actually the primary concern; we'll be OK for a little while longer.
The issue is more that I am starting to get down and rather panicked about whether or not he's EVER going to find anything. And the longer it goes on, the more frustrated he feels. Interviews occasionally pop up, miles from his field but he'll try anything right now, and he gets super-stressed about them for days beforehand followed inevitably by upset when they all come to nothing. A lot of the time people barely even bother to email back afterwards, which is pretty soul-destroying.
We have zero support from my family (they don't even know he's unemployed at the moment; it's a long long story but they are the most impossible people and telling them would not only no result in any emotional support whatsoever but will just pile the pressure on as my mum starts hurling blame and saying how stressed SHE is about it etc), friends of mine are frankly crap at listening about this, I think it's one of those things that nobody really wants to hear about much because it's too depressing after a while when there's no good news.
I am so lucky in so many ways because we have a truly wonderful relationship and have always supported each other through thick and thin. DH got me back on my feet after a major nervous breakdown in my early 20s. I am trying to be there for him without panicking myself but it gets harder and harder as the weeks keep going by with no resolution.
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unemployed DH... really starting to get me down now
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emeraldgirl1 · 24/07/2009 16:36
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