Firstly I should explain my DP is quite timid & shy, he hates confrontation & always shy?s away from arguments. Needless to say this has sometimes caused me to feel a bit like the ?man? in our relationship, though I?ve never said this & love him despite this.
Y.day I had a very frightening experience of being the victim of road rage, in fact I really can?t understand why this man was quite so angry. But it scared me and I think has damaged my relationship with DP.
I had pulled over (on a small quite road) to get something at the local shop, but the car behind me, sat behind me & honked his horn, he was behind me all of 5 seconds. I indicated for him to go round me which he had plenty of space to do, and as he went passed he was f-ing and blinding throwing his hands in the air & was all red (I can?t actually understand why he was so angry) so I (yes, stupidly) stuck my middle finger up at him I never expected him to then pull his car over in front of mine and jump out.
My DP also got out and said ?look she?s 7 months pregnant just leave it? (this man was about twice the size of my DP in height & was intimidating, he looked like a thug.)
He pointed at my DP and shouted aggressively and scarily to ?shut the fuck up and get back in the fucking car? ? which he did.
This man then ran over to my side where he ranted and raved very angrily & aggressively (he was frothing at the mouth and spitting!) telling me to ?never give him the f-ing finger again?, I apologised & my DP was saying to him to leave it still & the bloke shouted at him to ?shut the fuck up? or he was ?gonna come round and knock him out!?
It felt like hours he was standing there yelling at us, but was probably only a few minuets. Then he got in his car and sped off.
After my DP didn?t talk to me, but later told me I?d put him in a situation where I?d made him feel inadequate and stupid because he?d got back in the car when the angry man shouted at him too and that our relationship had ?fundamentally changed now? (?)
I told him that getting back in the car & letting angry man yell was the best thing to do as you always hear about road rage incidents turning nasty etc. But my DP feels he?s let me down by not standing up to this man.
I feel awful now and my DP is really upset about the whole thing, how can I make him see that I don?t think any less of him for not ?standing up to this man?.
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