There seem to be lots of threads about controlling partners and I thought I would share this mini-example, just out of interest. I may be reading too much into it but still ....
I have joined a "serious" (ie expensive and time-consuming to input all your details) internet dating site. They way it works is through staged communications ... so you can take things slowly, tell someone you're interested in starting to talk, then send some questions and ask for some back etc. Perhaps a bit convoluted but feels nice and safe.
Anyway, to get to the point, had a communication from one bloke whose first contact was to ask to skip all the guided communication, ie move straight away to chatting without having found out any more details about one another.
I thought this was fast, and chose the "no thanks, let's start with the guided option" response.
His response? to close communication, with the line "didn't think the chemistry was there."
It just struck me that here was a classic (if mild?) controlling type -
- Tries to get you out of comfort zone from the off
- When woman doesn't acquiese to demand, immediate response is to shut down and
3)Say "chemistry" (what chemistry?! we never communicated!) was wrong - ie there's something wrong with me.
As I say this may be overanalysing and it doesn't bother me in the slightest, but thought I'd share - it struck me as a classic way into a controlling relationship.