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Just feeling a bit low tonight

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Babieseverywhere Mon 13-Jul-09 23:14:56

I posted this on another thread but I need to buck up and get a grip.

" mother has fallen out with me, as I told her politely with a smile that I was not asking her for advice, as she critised my nursing 2.11 year old and my parenting skills.

I feel like my heart is breaking but what can I do. I won't change my parenting ideals, no matter how much I (or the child in me) desire parental approval."

So what do you do when your own mother disapproves, belittles you ? How can I stop feeling so sad about this ? My mother whom I love dearly will never change.

I can not even bring myself to ring her up.
I pick up the phone to ring her and I just feel sadness descend on me and I can't make the call.

I need to sort this out on my own, I am only responsible for my own behaviour not my mothers. I have to be the grownup and I need to have a reasonable relationship with my mother, however dissappointed she is in me.

Her comments have never made me feel this way before. It is like she finally cut though all my defences to my heart.

I am waffling, sober and very sad. I am not expecting any responses, I just needed to rant a bit, sigh

CharCharGabor Mon 13-Jul-09 23:18:16

sad BE. I know what you mean, my mother has a way of cutting deep and really hurting me with her comments. It makes me not want to speak to her and I find myself brooding and doubting myself when I wasn't before. Anyway I'm waffling and prob not v helpful but wanted to answer.

Babieseverywhere Tue 14-Jul-09 00:05:42


Tomorrow will be another <better> day and I have a lot of stuff to finish. If I can just get some sleep, off to bed <again>

CharCharGabor Tue 14-Jul-09 00:15:41

Night, hope you feel better tomorrow smile

whatanothernamechange Tue 14-Jul-09 10:14:19

That's a mother's job. I'm afraid. To know you that deeply. It's a shame that sometimes it is used in a negative way, but if she didn't care she wouldn't bother being around to make any comments. Really hope you make up soon. life is too short.
Take care.

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