Any advice on how to tackle this tactfully would be great? After a disasterous 3 nights of her staying here, which ended up with both dc's in tears and my mother sulking in the bedroom, I need a way of cancelling her visit at the beginning of auagust. She is supposed to be coming down to look after ds and dd for a week whilst CM is on hols, but it will simply be too stressful, she is the worst guest ever (i even found today she had used up all my face wipes and secretly changed the pillows we gave her with ours whilst we were out!). Im pregnant and work all day, getting up at 6am and get home about 6.30pm. I cannot deal with anymore stress. I have found free childcare for ds, so can anyone tell me how I raise the subject with mum?
its a long standing thing dizzy, I am not depriving her of the grandchildren, she saw them this week, saw them for 4 days at the beginning of June (again staying here) and is going on holiday with dd for a week mid-august. FWIW the rest of the time I have no help with childcare and pay CM full time. But neither of these things are the issue, I was just answering your post.
The problem with telling her I now have the childcare sorted is that she will know its because of what went on this week, and it will cause tension. I just wish there was some way round it, because I can do without the drama
'help' in the loosest (sp?) sense of the word if staying in bed until lunchtime and then watching re-runs of deal or no deal/who wants to be a millionaire/holby city all afternoon before declaring 'whats for dinner or are we going out' as I arrive home at 6.30pm!!
Unfortunately cannot use dh as an excuse, its the CM's daughter who has offered to have ds, including a sleepover for him, which is too good to miss
yes I am, but dd will tell her I am not off (cannot actually justify taking off parental leave given the amount of sick/compassionate and maternity leave this year will include). My boss is extremely flexible but dont want to take the piss, especially when I actually do have childcare
Tell her that ds will be spending the time with a friends child, bending the truth slightly but not completely?
It is difficult, dh mentioned to his parents, whom I or my dd's have any contact with, what my holiday plans were. They are now expecting to spend a whole day with us. Doesn't sound like much, but it really is!
Can you say that amazingly you have been offered free childcare and you are going to take that up but thank you so much for being such a star and offering to do it. What a brill mum you are and now then, can we get another date in the diary where you can see the kids again......and then breathe out ddeply .
I'd tell her now. Just say someone else has offered to help so she is free to do other stuff that week and stand your ground when she moans. You could add you don't want to do entertaining and find it easier without other people in the house at the moment.