Sorry, have name-changed for this as don't want her tracing me on MN, just in case.
So, at the moment, there is a lot of tension between myself and SIL. We used to get on, but over the last few years it's gradually gotten worse and worse and worse, and now we barely speak.
SIL comes from a very difficult background; one of her parents died when she was very young, and the other parent remarried within a year, to a person who did not particularly like the existing DCs. There were rumours of the step parent beating them, or at the least treating them really horribly (they had to ask if they wanted a glass of water, etc.). Then, parent and step-parent produced a half-sibling who was given EVERYTHING, TV in bedroom, own bedroom and so on. SIL had to go to work as soon as she finished school and was never even given the option of further study (though she had messed about a lot at school anyway). She married DB, her family moved away, she and DB moved as well and have done very well for themselves. She's studying now, they have a lovely house, two lovely children etc. etc. But, she and DB (though mostly she) have really taken a dislike to me. I went to university (worked my a*se off the whole time), got a good job (again, through sheer hard work) nad have a relatively alright life (there are problems, but hey, that's life). Just after I finished university and moved to a new city, they sent me a REALLY horrible email, saying that I should stop mentioning having a degree, I should stop showing off so much (I don't really) etc. etc. They're always complaining (not to me directly, but to other SIL) that I went to uni and they didn't (DB dropped out). Her nickname for me is a distortion of my name, so it sounds like a swear word, whenever I see them, they're always making fun of me and talking me down. They repeatedly invite me over, but last time I went, they spent the whole night talking about themselves like "Oh, and we're going to go skiing in blah blah next year" "We're going to get an extension on the house". You never get a chance to talk about anything else. We have differing views on religion, but instead of having discussions, they just fire question after question, and then mock any answers I give.
I really don't have the strength to deal with her. She's tried poisoning my relationship with her DCs (if I don't come around she'll tell them that I don't love them). But, she is family. I love her DCs to pieces but barely get to see them. When I have tried to organise family events, they complain, don't turn up, or want to rearrange everything so it suits them (regardless of other people's needs).
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notquitethebradybunch · 10/07/2009 16:36
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