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My DH needs (and deserves) some TLC. Any suggestions?

(13 Posts)
sameagain Fri 10-Jul-09 13:51:34

DH Is lovely. We've been married 17 years and he's always been supportive of my career, education, child rearing ideas etc. He's a good provider without being so wrapped up in his career he's not there for us, fantastic Dad, fun to be with, loves me and not afraid to show it and he does his bit around the house.

Recently I've had a difficult time at work (now resolved with his support) as well as some emotional issues (nothing to do with him) which have made me a bit preoccupied and some health concerns re DS1, which have also taken a lot of my emotional energy.

While I've been all wrapped up in myself, DH has been great, but also fighting some of his own issues, which to my great shame I didn't even notice for a long time.

He really deserves looking after for a bit. So any suggestions? Ideally that don't involve a babysitter and not entirely based around sex (although harm including some wink would like to show him he's appreciated for all he is and does)

preggersplayspop Fri 10-Jul-09 13:58:22

Awwww, he sounds great. What sort of things does he like doing? Does he have any interests...sport, wine?

PrettyCandles Fri 10-Jul-09 14:04:55

Tell him. smile

BarbaraWoodlouse Fri 10-Jul-09 14:07:44

Ok, this is in no way imaginative but what about a specially cooked meal, bottle of wine, candles on the table with a "this is because" explanation (or card if you think you'd get shy)?

Iklboo Fri 10-Jul-09 14:13:30

A nice family picnic - maybe somewhere that means something special to him?
How old are the DCs? Could they help bake him a nice cake, make a card etc and buy him a big block of chocolate or a favourite magazine?
Can you afford one of those driving days/golf day thingies they have in the Argos catalogue?

Alibabaandthe40nappies Fri 10-Jul-09 14:26:57

Write him a letter telling him what you just told us

Get some yummy food organised, a nice bottle of wine and go from there!

posiedullardparker Fri 10-Jul-09 14:39:58

What about a gallery day....whilst he's at work put up photos and pictures around the house the tell the story of what a great dad and husband he is. Perhaps one of when you first met, wedding, some of his and your extended family. A bit of a welcome to your life/this is why I love you type thing. perhaps get your dcs to write something about him???

Poledra Fri 10-Jul-09 14:50:30

D'you know, if I were him, I think just being told what you've said here would be absoutely FANTASTIC! And, if you wrote it down, he'd be able to take it out and reread when he wants smile

Disclaimer: am not a bloke, so maybe not on the right wavelength.

MamaLazarou Fri 10-Jul-09 14:57:52

I usually do my DH a nice big cake or trifle, and let him have it all to himself.

He will usually ask: 'What's this for, then?' and I say, 'To say thank you for making me feel better/not being cross about so-and-so/looking after me when I was ill/being so wonderful to me'.

This only works well for husbands who especially love cake or trifle and aren't keen on sharing.

mamamila Fri 10-Jul-09 15:05:28

breakfast in bed - incl heart shaped toast! give him a long oily massage, pedicure. indulge him by suggesting an activity you know he enjoys but you usually avoid..

SexyDomesticatedDad Fri 10-Jul-09 15:10:56

IME - just tell him and then B*NK his brains out. Works every time for me and then off to do lots more around the house.

MadameDefarge Fri 10-Jul-09 17:47:37

There are those special days out vouchers you can get, like rally driving, or hot air ballooning, or some such. Maybe there is something he has always wanted to try? They can be a bit pricey, but might be worth splashing out on? Then the meal/picnic/bonk scenario to follow....

TDiddy Sun 12-Jul-09 21:57:57

I smiled when I saw this. Probably quite a few MNs dads might read this and wonder if they are in for a present/treat grin

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