Ok this is going to be a long explanation. My DH has been a SAHD to our 2.11 DD for the last 15 months and at first everything was great. Hoaever just recently I am starting to feel like a single mum when i'm at home as he never wants to come out with me and DD. I work 4 days a week and on my day off I like to take DD out to give DH a break. However he has also stopped coming out with us at wekends saying he wants time to himself. Well wouldn't we all like time to ourselves!
When I get in from work he completely switches off from his parenting role and I am expected to entertain our DD for the 4 hours before she goes to bed.
Am I expecting too much to want him to share the workload when I get home? IMO we have both done a full day at work ad so should share when I'm home. I tried to explain this last night but he just ended up getting really angry and siad that if wanted time to myself i shouldn't have had a baby.
I think he is being a dick but waht do you all think and how best to broach the subject again do you think?
i think he is thoroughly pissed off with his job - so maybe he needs to change jobs.
it needs a sit down calm conversation - with ground rules
this is what we are going to talk about
in this context
in a calm manner
then say that you think he is unhappy - and you are willing to change that, however he cannot be a sahd until you get home - becuase you have worked a full day - just like he has, and whilst you recognise that his is a hard job - this isn't a martyrdom competition.
so how to resolve it?
does he want to change jobs? does he want specific time for him? would you get specific time for you?